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if 2 weeks ago you were 90% sure she was the one for you you should man up and have the kid. Seems like most of your problems are with the fact that you hate her family and hate the town you're in. Move away, have the kid somewhere new, start a family fresh. BTW don't even for a minute think that if she has an abortion you will still be with her in 6 months.

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-Before she is allowed to have the abortion, she must go to counseling or some type of meetings... not exactly sure on this one.


-She must write a letter to her baby apoligizing for what she is going to do. This seems kind of sick, but all the places here make you do that. Reading the letters from other mothers who have gone through with it are apparently enough to make you never want to do it.

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what? no.

Re: Pregnant GF
 

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she is giving up drinking, but will still continue to smoke daily. She has a friend who told us that pot isnt bad for a fetus (WTF?????).

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Whatever happens, you need to put an end to this NOW.

How can marijuana affect the unborn baby: Studies of marijuana in pregnancy are inconclusive because many women who smoke marijuana also use tobacco and alcohol. Smoking marijuana increases the levels of carbon monoxide and carbon dioxide in the blood, which reduces the oxygen supply to the baby. Smoking marijuana during pregnancy can increase the chance of miscarriage, low birth-weight, premature births, developmental delays, and behavioral and learning problems.

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Stairs.

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Man this mod forum post in question has tons of nude chicks!

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It's really annoying when mods hijack a thread like this. No one cares about the secret mod forum.

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She drank/smoked during the first trimester.

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Wow. Don't have kids please.

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What do you think they did in the 50's and 60's? You don't see a bunch of middle aged mongoloids walking around do you?

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You do realize that term left use around the same time widespread use of racial slurs for every race stopped?

Call em' what they are retards with Down syndrome.

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Do you know where Mat found those Scarlett J pictures? OMFG.....

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It's really annoying when mods hijack a thread like this. No one cares about the secret mod forum.

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they're just taking out their anger in humor - they have to read nation's [censored] all the time there

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I'm disgusted by much of the advice in this thread. Anyone who runs in this situation is not a man and is a worthless human being (and dare I say, more "white trash" than her family could ever be). It's one thing to want her to have an abortion, but when she decides to have the kid you have to deal with it and start taking the steps to care for it. Being concerned that the child could be affected by drinking during the first trimester is reasonable. She should see a doctor if she hasn't yet.

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So it is OK for the girl to make a decision for OP that will affect him for the rest of his life and he should have NO say in it aside from trying to convince her it isn't a good idea?

If a contract signed by this girl to the effect that she was going to be the sole parent/hold sole financial responsibility for this child could be enforced in court, I would suggest that before running. If OP is faced with the decision to either run away (and NEVER look back) or be stuck as the father to an unwanted child, WAY BEFORE HE IS READY TO BE A PARENT, I say:

RUN, OP, RUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

What is sad is that it takes more proof of responsibility to get get a Blockbuster membership than it does to have children and there are people out there who think that getting pregnant (by mistake) should suddenly change the man/woman and make them responsible adults/parents.

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You're a sick [censored] and a disgusting human being. Now go drink some more jack.

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I don't drink.

Take a moment and think about this from a logical perspective, leaving emotions and cultural norms aside for a second. I may be wrong about this, but I would like to be convinced that I am rather than accept a societal norm that when you get a girl pregnant, she has all the power to decide if you will be a father for the rest of your life.

Can you give me a good reason why it is her decision (and hers ALONE)? Keeping in mind that her decision has ramifications for you, the potential father? Please don't tell me "it's her body, her choice" cause I am more than happy to allow her to make this choice FOR HERSELF if she is willing to release me from any financial/moral responsibility.

It is sad that there are so many children out there with parents who have no clue how to raise a child, rely on some form of social assistance in order to afford the expense of having children, force their parents (the grandparents of the baby) to help them raise the child (thus dashing the hopes and dreams of not only the prospective father, but also those of their parents, who, I remind you are DONE raising the kids they had).

Having kids is a responsibility, not a right. Anyone thinking they can have kids willy nilly will (and should!) face the hard times that come with this decision (especially if they don't have the financial means to make things "easier"). When young girls get pregnant (by mistake) I think the FIRST and PRIMARY consideration should be to abort the fetus, continue building your life, and having a child when you are financially, morally and emotionally ready for it. Being convinced by your family and friends that you should keep it (against the dictates of logic) is no more than crabs in a bucket, making sure not a single crab gets out by pulling those who manage to get to the top right back down to the bottom…

I hold firm in my recommendation to OP that he shoudl run fast and far, before the other crabs pull him down to the bottom of the bucket. If his girlfriend isn't capable of making the right decision (ABORT! ABORT! ABORT!), he shouldn't feel trapped in this cycle (which as he mentions, all his girlfriends friends/relatives are trapped in), he should make a new life for himself and never look back.

Convince me that I am wrong.

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Consider this about abortion. I always thought like you did. The fetus is not a baby yet, she just goes in and somehow the baby goes away and all is well. Anyway, my GF and I had a little scare once and talked about the different options. She told me the following:

-Abortion is like major surgery. They basically go in, scramble the fetus like a blender, and then suck it out. There is a risk that she won't be able to have children after this.

-Before she is allowed to have the abortion, she must go to counseling or some type of meetings... not exactly sure on this one.

-She must write a letter to her baby apoligizing for what she is going to do. This seems kind of sick, but all the places here make you do that. Reading the letters from other mothers who have gone through with it are apparently enough to make you never want to do it.

Whether these things are true or not, it made me change my thinking.

After she goes through with it, your relationship will most likely be over. She will pretty much be scarred for life.

Now it really depends on if you truly care for her or not. If you do, and you could see yourself being with her happily ever after, I would man up and raise the child with her. If not, run away I guess.

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I would say that your (bad) experience is more of a function of the state/religious interference in what is nothing more than a quick, easy, completely mundane medical procedure. If there are medical reasons why this would be dangerous for the mother then it is whole different story (and only a doctor can be the judge of that, not a clergyman or a representative of the state).

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Man this mod forum post in question has tons of nude chicks!

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Do you know where Mat found those Scarlett J pictures? OMFG.....

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It's really annoying when mods hijack a thread like this. No one cares about the secret mod forum.

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they're just taking out their anger in humor - they have to read nation's [censored] all the time there

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It's a little from Column A, little from Column B.

Plus, Homer, you're lying about not caring wrt the mod forum.