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So her grandfather died after alot of hospitalizations, and she definatley saw it coming and so did her family but she isn't taking it well. I have to drive awhile and meet her family, which i've never done, and I really don't want to go. We aren't very serious. Is it -ev to just say "I don't want to go." and be honest?

I don't think lying is a good line... and I wouldn't expect her to attend a wake for my family and I doubt I would even invite her unless she knew the family member.

need help =-0

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If you don't want to break up, go. If you do, then be honest, then break up with her in a couple of weeks.

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Why would I break up with her, because her grandfather died? That makes no sense. If she can understand my hesitation then there is no problem between us.

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If she can understand your hesitation about providing the most important thing that she needs in a relationship?

Yep, good luck with that.

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OP,

I think it's extremely petty that you are even thinking about not going. I understand that you don't know these people, but your being asked by someone to come help them cope with a tough situation. Part of being a good friend/human being is helping others through times like this. Someday, you will likely have the same type of thing happen to you. I've been to numerous funerals for friends/fraternity brothers of mine where I didn't know anyone involved. In each case, I knew they were having a hard time, and wanted to be a good friend. It was slightly uncomfortable for about 2 seconds until I realized we were all adults and not 10 year old girls and everything went just fine. In fact, this type of thing really helps you grow up and be a better friend/person in the future.

I know a lot of people have thrown out the whole "If you don't care about her..break up with her.." line, and you've shrugged it off. But clearly you don't even consider this girl to be a friend of yours if you don't want to do this for her.

There is no rule that you must be madly in love, or soulmates, or best friends in order to ask someone to come help them cope with a difficult time in their life. IMO, deep down you should kind of want to do this for someone, and if you don't...it's kind of sad.

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Also,

The idea of rolling the dice with her understanding your hesitation is selfish as hell. She's torn up over the loss of a relative, and your trying to come up with a relevant excuse not to go.

Either do it, or don't. Don't piss her off, then show up, and have it mean absolutely nothing.

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OP,

I think it's extremely petty that you are even thinking about not going. I understand that you don't know these people, but your being asked by someone to come help them cope with a tough situation. Part of being a good friend/human being is helping others through times like this. Someday, you will likely have the same type of thing happen to you. I've been to numerous funerals for friends/fraternity brothers of mine where I didn't know anyone involved. In each case, I knew they were having a hard time, and wanted to be a good friend. It was slightly uncomfortable for about 2 seconds until I realized we were all adults and not 10 year old girls and everything went just fine. In fact, this type of thing really helps you grow up and be a better friend/person in the future.

I know a lot of people have thrown out the whole "If you don't care about her..break up with her.." line, and you've shrugged it off. But clearly you don't even consider this girl to be a friend of yours if you don't want to do this for her.

There is no rule that you must be madly in love, or soulmates, or best friends in order to ask someone to come help them cope with a difficult time in their life. IMO, deep down you should kind of want to do this for someone, and if you don't...it's kind of sad.

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QFT.

Imagine how bad the OP is going to feel if they end up hitched and her family remembers how cool/awesome the grandfather was and all he'll remember is being a pussy and wussing out. It's a wake for crissake.

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Here's your line: "I only sleep with female corpses. So I'll take a pass on this one. But how's your Grandma doing?"

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I said this to her and she got this bitchy attitude. I guess she really doesn't like me =\

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Sarcasm this obvious != level

In fact, it may actually be a negative level.

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no only vampires and wraiths can do that.

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OP,

I think it's extremely petty that you are even thinking about not going. I understand that you don't know these people, but your being asked by someone to come help them cope with a tough situation. Part of being a good friend/human being is helping others through times like this. Someday, you will likely have the same type of thing happen to you. I've been to numerous funerals for friends/fraternity brothers of mine where I didn't know anyone involved. In each case, I knew they were having a hard time, and wanted to be a good friend. It was slightly uncomfortable for about 2 seconds until I realized we were all adults and not 10 year old girls and everything went just fine. In fact, this type of thing really helps you grow up and be a better friend/person in the future.

I know a lot of people have thrown out the whole "If you don't care about her..break up with her.." line, and you've shrugged it off. But clearly you don't even consider this girl to be a friend of yours if you don't want to do this for her.

There is no rule that you must be madly in love, or soulmates, or best friends in order to ask someone to come help them cope with a difficult time in their life. IMO, deep down you should kind of want to do this for someone, and if you don't...it's kind of sad.

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QFT.

Imagine how bad the OP is going to feel if they end up hitched and her family remembers how cool/awesome the grandfather was and all he'll remember is being a pussy and wussing out. It's a wake for crissake.

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well I think this is like the only post that makes sense here

too bad I didn't read this yesterday

thanks

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Re: GF invites me to wake, whats my line?
 

No time to read all of the other posts (or really the OP), but, based upon the title of the OP, I say...

Get an alarm clock, and it won't be such a difficult question for you.

Meanwhile, just give in--go ahead and wake.

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well I think this is like the only post that makes sense here

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Somehow, I'm still amazing by people who start a thread to try and justify their questionable ethical position on something, and then ignore or otherwise discredit the response they get from the majority of the forum calling them an [censored].

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YOU GO GIRL!!!

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I had only met my girlfriend's father once before he died (we lived in GA, her family was in NY). My girlfriend (now wife - this was 6+ years ago) was with the family when it happened and called me in the middle of the night, around 2:00am. I had a flight booked within an hour and was in NY that afternoon.

It was the first time I had met her extended family (I had met her mother and sister the one time I met her father) and I didn't feel awkward about it at all. Her family even asked if I'd be a pallbearer. I had no problems with that, either.

There really wasn't a question in my mind about going to the funeral.

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Don't double dip.
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If she's your "Girlfriend" you go, ldo. If she's just a "friend" then you're not required. Doesn't matter if you've never met the family. As her "boyfriend" that is part of your duties.

So I take it you didn't go?? I read the whole thread, but might have missed it....

T

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too bad I didn't read this yesterday

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Does this mean you didn't go?

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It is glaringly obvious you are missing some key information in your decision making. You really do want to go to this wake, and just don't know it yet.

First, wakes involve mucho alcohol. Think about it really hard, and try to remember the last time you had a bad time around a bunch of strangers when you were shitfaced drunk. Plus there is the added benefit that you will be in the best mood of anyone attending, and as a result that much more funny and charming after all that booze.

Second, and more importantly, I would refer you to Wedding Crashers. The only thing that gets women hotter than being a bridesmaid, is grief. Score!

Third, is that you are getting a valuable opportunity to check out the mother of this chick you are seeing, and most likely in a slimming black dress. This will allow you to make an informed decision as to whether to keep seeing the girl you're with or to run for the hills.

Let me know how the trip turns out!

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It is glaringly obvious you are missing some key information in your decision making. You really do want to go to this wake, and just don't know it yet.

First, wakes involve mucho alcohol. Think about it really hard, and try to remember the last time you had a bad time around a bunch of strangers when you were shitfaced drunk. Plus there is the added benefit that you will be in the best mood of anyone attending, and as a result that much more funny and charming after all that booze.

Second, and more importantly, I would refer you to Wedding Crashers. The only thing that gets women hotter than being a bridesmaid, is grief. Score!

Third, is that you are getting a valuable opportunity to check out the mother of this chick you are seeing, and most likely in a slimming black dress. This will allow you to make an informed decision as to whether to keep seeing the girl you're with or to run for the hills.

Let me know how the trip turns out!

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Maybe it's just me...but I've never been to a wake with alcohol.

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It is glaringly obvious you are missing some key information in your decision making. You really do want to go to this wake, and just don't know it yet.

First, wakes involve mucho alcohol. Think about it really hard, and try to remember the last time you had a bad time around a bunch of strangers when you were shitfaced drunk. Plus there is the added benefit that you will be in the best mood of anyone attending, and as a result that much more funny and charming after all that booze.

Second, and more importantly, I would refer you to Wedding Crashers. The only thing that gets women hotter than being a bridesmaid, is grief. Score!

Third, is that you are getting a valuable opportunity to check out the mother of this chick you are seeing, and most likely in a slimming black dress. This will allow you to make an informed decision as to whether to keep seeing the girl you're with or to run for the hills.

Let me know how the trip turns out!

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Re: GF invites me to wake, whats my line?
 

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It is glaringly obvious you are missing some key information in your decision making. You really do want to go to this wake, and just don't know it yet.

First, wakes involve mucho alcohol. Think about it really hard, and try to remember the last time you had a bad time around a bunch of strangers when you were shitfaced drunk. Plus there is the added benefit that you will be in the best mood of anyone attending, and as a result that much more funny and charming after all that booze.

Second, and more importantly, I would refer you to Wedding Crashers. The only thing that gets women hotter than being a bridesmaid, is grief. Score!

Third, is that you are getting a valuable opportunity to check out the mother of this chick you are seeing, and most likely in a slimming black dress. This will allow you to make an informed decision as to whether to keep seeing the girl you're with or to run for the hills.

Let me know how the trip turns out!

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Maybe it's just me...but I've never been to a wake with alcohol.

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I'm guessing you aren't Irish. When my aunt died, the wake was across the street from a bar. EVERYONE, including kids was at the bar.