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Incidentally, the title of this thread sounds like it should be "dead baby" instead of shy girl.

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I lol:ed.

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OP,

I think I understand your situation. You don't like girls who talk too much, but you don't want to seem like you're dominating a conversation with a quiet girl, despite the fact that you don't know how to talk to either type of girl.

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Yup. I think you pretty much nailed it.

Re: How do you open up a shy girl
 

Ask questions.

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Show them your documents...

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Initially you're going to dominate the conversation. That's just the way things work unfortunately.

But once you create a vibe with her, you need to get her talking for a significant amount of your conversation (~40%).

There are three ideas that will help.

1) Allow her to qualify herself. She won't feel invested in the conversation until she actually reveals something of substance about herself. A standard line for letting her qualify herself is "so what do you have going for you besides your looks?" In your case something that could work is "wow, I thought you were such a shy, quiet thing but now you won't stop giggling. That's awesome (bring her in for a hug or high-five or reward her physically in some way)!"

2) Create a vacuum when you ask a question. There are correct and incorrect ways to ask non yes/no questions. When you ask one after you've hooked her into an interaction, let/make her answer. Ask the question and look at her expectantly. Don't take the conversational pressure off of her by continuing to talk or explain the question. If she gives a lame answer, call her out on it, re-apply conversational pressure. It's this "vacuum" of providing a topic for her and then not talking that will help get her out of her shell.

3) Foreshadow. Very early on in the interaction try to work into a story or life-view that you value women who can hold their own in two-way conversations. This is also another opportunity for her to qualify herself by adopting that role you set up.

Yugoslav

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Forceps.

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Nice. I wanted to give an answer like this but 5 or 6 people beat me to it. I think forceps is a winner.

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speculum

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Forceps.

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Nice. I wanted to give an answer like this but 5 or 6 people beat me to it. I think forceps is a winner.

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With some of the broads I've gone out with, the correct answer is more like "jaws of life":

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How do you open up a shy girl

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Put one hand on one leg, one land on the other and pull them apart.