Kinda weird situation...

[onthebutton]

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I was sitting class today when she imed me and asked me if i wanted to go to that thing. [...]

Apparently this weekend, her BF got drunk, tired to kiss some othe chick, and was consistently trying to hook up with other chicks. [...]

For me, our relationship is clearly defined


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For you, it's defined. Doesn't seem that she has the same definition.

Timeline:

She finds out her BF was trying to hook up with chicks.

She IMs you about going to this thing with her.

You somehow end up going to dinner with tonight, and she continues to complain about her BF.


I'd be highly suspicious of her motives here.

[ggbman]

I went to dinner with her and one of her friends. It was like a girlie-pow-wow thing. If anything, you should be making fun of me for participating in that sort of discussion. I mean you have been in that situation, but you think it's REALLY different because you just never happened to be friends with a girl who then started dating one of your friends. If this happened, you would tell her not to confide in you anymore?

Anyway look, i am fine agreeing to disagree. Just don't come back and draw some parrallel to her blowing me. Just because some sleazy [censored] let that happen doesnt mean i do.

[Catch of the Day]

Nah man I am just an [censored] like the rest of OT mascerading as someone with integrity [img]/images/graemlins/grin.gif[/img]

I responded the way that I did because I honestly Identify with your situation. I am only 21 man and have had shady [censored] like that come up. Yeah I've let a friend's GF vent about them over a few drinks. I have consoled a friends ex-gf during 'the break up'. I guess it's just in reflecting I have come to realize that I was a [censored] friend, and as such a lot of my friends were [censored] friends.

The type of respect you show people models the type the respect you can expect to be shown.

I got sick of shallow, self-serving 'myspace' friendships (I mean come on, who the [censored] has 300 friends) and have thought some about what 'friendship' means to me.

Okay I need a hug after that...

[ggbman]

And no, i don't tell him that. Just like i dont tell her if he says "Dude she can be so annoying sometimes."

Somehow, i think if someone sent him the convo where she is talking [censored] about him and he's sees me respond with:

"You know he's a cool guy, and you don't rally feel that way..."

He would forgive me.

[El Diablo]

gg,

Only blowing that's happening is Yeti's girlfriend w/ me.

[Catch of the Day]

I am still waiting for El.D to referece the dialouge in Pulp Fiction comparing eating a girls pussy to a foot massage...

[skunkworks]

I think the truth is somewhere in between the two extremes.

Gabe, maybe you're not doing enough to let her know what your boundaries are. Telling her that she reminds you of her sister isn't enough; how many guys have had a girl tell them "you're like a brother to me" but still didn't get the message?

When she sits on your lap, that's most definitely not kosher in any way and you need to let her know. Being passive about something like that doesn't free you from blame, and by not saying anything to her, she thinks she's receiving tacit approval of the act from you.

El Diablo: I understand and agree with your viewpoint, but you made your position seem so extreme and vitriolic. Is there a reason why this topic is so polarizing for you? Or is it just a bad day for you.

[ggbman]

Agree with basically everything you said, nice post.

[ggbmanESmiHERO]

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gg,

If I were your friend, I'm not sure what would piss me off more, all your physical flirting w/ her or that AIM BS talking about me.

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gg,

Why have you created a relationship w/ this girl where she feels it appropriate to come to you to complain about her boyfriend problems?

As someone said earlier, it's like you're "fake-dating" her and sure seems like, at least at some level, you want her.

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El D,

You are retarded. You are most likely also a dumb mormon if you think ggbman's actions are off base.

'Physical flirting'

Please! I can only imagine when El D has people over. El D must have rules and regulations for what people who are in relationships can and can not do. Sitting on someones lap and harmlessly flirting is nothing sir. You must keep your women on a TIGHT leash El D! Or maybe its that you have never had a women and putting down college kids on a stupid poker forum is the only way you get off?

'AIM BS talking about me'

So you never talk to your friends online about relationships? Mi hero is quite obviously good friends with the girl in question. Talking about social problems is off base? [img]/images/graemlins/confused.gif[/img] [img]/images/graemlins/confused.gif[/img] They clearly have a relationship where they talk about each others problems...I know that is hard for someone like you to understand because 2+2 is your primary form of social interaction, but for super awesome people like the all mighty ggbman it is not uncommon to have bitches knocking down his door crying about their various problems.

[kipin]

You created a gimmick account to flame Diablo?

Ermmm, 'Nuff said.