In all seriousness, what are you looking for in a woman?

[FortunaMaximus]

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I like happy girls. I have tried to make too many sad, angry, confused, worried, needy, demanding ladies with lots of problems happy. It can't be done. So I just want one that is already happy without me having to try to do it for her.

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True for the most part, been there. But if there's one you really are intrigued with, and you realize she CAN be happy. And all you have to be for her, is be yourself.

Martyring yourself for females can be pretty toxic stuff. But the right woman, the right reasons.

Of course, that's a pretty low probability.

[Orangeheat]

Someone willing to clean this.

Orange

[El Diablo]

Tenn,

Al and the guy he quotes have a pretty good description of what I'm looking for.

After setting me up with a bunch of girls, my friend Sarah insists that what I want is a "rocket scientist supermodel" which really isn't that far off, though I'd add "with a good sense of humor and a great personality and a nice person."

I just wrote this the other day to a girl who wants to introduce me to some friends: "I like girls who are very smart, attractive, fun, and interesting. I have no complicated physical criteria except that they have a pretty face and are thin/athletic."

In terms of physical beauty, I generally like women that women find attractive more than women that men find attractive. That may just mean I value beautiful faces more than big boobs.

[Scotty.]

I've been in a few semi LTR's (up to a year and a half) and have had plenty one nighters and the odd friend with benefits. These girls have had pretty much all kinds of different qualities. Beautiful, not so attractive but really fun, crazy sex drive, really intelligent, dumb as a post, kinda trashy, fairly reserved, older, younger, etc etc.

I've definetly enjoyed their company, and become good friends some of them after we stopped hooking up, or broke up. After all of this, I can't honestly say I have developed very strong feelings for any of them. Never been in love before, and never really found a girl that I could see myself with a long time into the future. It kinda worries me that I am going to end up settling for something I don't truly want, or just never settle down with anyone to raise a family.

For now, I'm going to chalk this up to me just being young and inexperienced, and I will find out what I want eventually. I'm sure that's the answer that most of the older OOT'ers or Dr Dom would give me.

[buriedbeds]

(This is taking for granted a relative level of physical attrativeness - I care way less than most guys, particularly OOT guys, but it's just reality that you're not going to get past it if you find someone physically repulsive)

1. Intelligence. If a girl is smarter than I am, she can totally own me.
2. Artsiness, or at least an appreciation of all (well, all good) things artistic. A girl with a creative outlet is way, way hot to me, whether they can sing, play an instrument, paint, draw, write, whatever. They can also own me. If they don't *do* something creative, though, I want them to at least appreciate good art. I do not want a girl who wants to watch Sweet Home Alabama 182 or some crappy tv show (except for those watched *because of* their crappiness, of course), or listen to (whatever's on the radio right now...I don't even know anymore). I like a girl with a little flair who likes interesting things. Not even necessarily what I like, but something that *she* likes because *she* likes it, not because it's the crap that's on all the time. The best scenario is when our tastes overlap about 75% of the time, so there's enough common ground to have conversations and enjoy things together, but enough different that we can share new things with each other. Also, it's cool if we have mutually exclusive tastes on some things, because who wants to agree about everything with someone??
3. Interesting personality. This sometimes means insane... [img]/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img] But usually not. I don't want a girl who's goal in life is to be "normal." Nor do I particularly want someone whose goal is to be "different." I just want someone whose personality is their own, not what they think others would (or would not) want it to be. I appreciate someone with their own mind.
4. Someone who acts like they care about me. Sounds kind of obvious, but by this I just mean a girl who does little things every once in a while. A girl who acts like a servant would be creepy. But a girl who knows you're going to be late to work so she cooks you breakfast while you're in the shower even though you didn't ask and you normally do it yourself is wonderful. Also, a girl cares expressing that she cares about the little things you do for her is really nice. A girl who appreciates it when you do something for her, and lets you know that she appreciates it, makes you *want* to do things for her.
5. I like when a girl can bring me out of my shell and expand my horizons a bit by getting me to do something I normally wouldn't. Not sexually, btw (well, not necessarily sexually... [img]/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img] ). Could just be doing some activity that I'd normally never do but she convinces me to do.
6. I like it when a girl likes to have sex at least as much as I do, both qualitatively and quantitatively.
7. Girls who aren't judgemental. Essentially, I am very accepting of a girl's faults if I love that girl. I want the same in return. Love the whole person, not just selective bits. For instance, a girl doesn't have to like the fact that I will, no matter what, watch every single minute of every single eagles game every year until the day I die. They just have to be ok with it and not nag me about it. I do the same in return. This extends to quirks both in the way they act and with regards to personality traits. I am very forgiving of odd personality traits if the girl's heart is good and they treat me well.
8. I do NOT want a girl who acts like she owns me. We can spend a lot of time together, and have input into each other's lives, but the girl can not tell me how to run every element of my life, particularly when it doesn't affect her.
8a. Related to that point, a touch of jealousy's great - "I don't like that girl, I don't trust her around you!" makes a guy feel wanted. "You're not going out with your friends tonight" is absolutely not okay, and will quickly (!) lead to the end of any relationship.

Those are the big ones for me, off the top of my head.

-bb.

[DrewDevil]

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I already know about that crap. All people want someone who they are attracted to, and I'd be a [censored] nit wit if I didnt assume that sex was important. I'm looking for what other things men are looking for. And so far people have given excellent examples of what they feel that want and need or at least a guess towards that.

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And yet you seem upset/bitter that this "crap" is truly so important. Why?

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I'm not. I love sex. I just thought your answer was stupid and redundant.

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Sorry to disappoint you, and glad you're <u>definitely not</u> bitter.

Anyway, your question was like this:

"What do people really look for in a television? And leave out any responses about the picture and sound, thanks."

But whatever. Good luck.

[kipin]

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In terms of physical beauty, I generally like women that women find attractive more than women that men find attractive. That may just mean I value beautiful faces more than big boobs.

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That's interesting to hear, I think I am the same way but have never really thought about it.

The last chick I was into all my guy friends were saying she was too thin, or boobs were not big enough. But all my chick friends found her really attractive.

[J.Brown]

to OP

this may have been covered in this thread, but here is the best piece of advice i ever got on this subject.

look for someone that you would want to be best friends with (that covers a lot of bases i know, but take some deep thought as well) + some sort of physical attraction = type of woman that you want. period. it is more simple than we think.

it is easy to get blurred by and put up with things that really become secondary very soon, but if you use the true best friend valuation system and don't expect/put up with/compromise this system it is fairly fool proof.

cheers. J.

[samjjones]

[buriedbeds]

Incidentally, Tenn, it's funny when girls ask this stuff generally because it's way easier for girls to get guys than for guys to get girls, but for you to post this one here when you're basically worshipped each time you post, it's particularly funny...I bet if they did a study they'd find that Tenn and Oct's posts get the most replies of anyone on this board, save possibly for El D, but that's just because everyone on here seems to be totally gay for the masked man.

At any rate, this thread will get tons and tons of posts due to the fact that you started it. So, basically, you should stop worrying about it. I'd assume this is related to the ex-boyfriend thing you've posted about on here. Just take solace in the fact that you could have a date a day for the next 5-10 years with poker nerds and never see the same one twice. I doubt very much the same thing would happen to me if I started posting on a 99%-female stitch-n-bitch board. [img]/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img]

-bb.