Unrequited love - what to do?

[WilyTilt]

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So, I'd be better off becoming obsessed with Brandi Hawibaker?



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In the short term, how do I stop thinking about her?


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Its simple. Stop doing it. When you start thinking about, think about something else. Pick up a solitary hobby. Something you do by yourself. Think about that. If you start thinking about her, force your mind to think about said hobby. Or read a lot. Engage your mind in a book and leave it less time to think about the girl.

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yup, do anything u can do to get her out of ur mind...this might take some time though...and hit the gym, it couldn't hurt...

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Winning a WPT title also seems to attract hot women, or at least psycho con-artists...

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Well, 3 out of your 4 lays have been hookers...

[zac7179]

MOVE ON!!!!!!!!! thats theonly advice anyone needs to give you. Next time u meet a girl chill out and let things happen don't force the issue everytime u meet them. If things are going to happen le them happen on her terms not yours. Because if u don't and keep forcing it it will end up lke this one.

[MediaPA]

Seriously though, as everyone has said and you know. It's over. Leave this thread immediately. All you are doing is feeding your imagination, recalling the 'meaningless' moments that you shared. That's right, they are meaningless because you are obsessing over them, and it's obvious that she never took them as anything more. If she had, guess what? You would have had some sort of physical relationship. Just read between the lines on this one. Some women have problems saying they just aren't interested, so they will just ignore you. Read between the lines on this one.

[bobhalford]

nature,

I read your story and found it rather moving. I once had an experience similar to this, but the circumstances were very different.

I think your mistake was to get invovled this way with this woman. You made a terrible mistake by allowing you and her to get on with one another as just friends. Things like love are not supposed to develop over years. It's not like after a year of these sporadic meetings, the two of you decide you are in love.

You have to try and tag that pussy as soon as you can. You don't [censored] wait 2 years or whatever to tell her how you feel. You should be trying to find a way to kiss her the 2nd or 3rd time you meet up with her. If she doesn't want it, that's it. You cut off the relationship because I'll tell you one thing, she's not changing her mind.

I know if I want to nail someone within 5 minutes (arguably closer to 5 milliseconds). Girls are this way too. You just don't grow to be attracted to someone. I think that idea is a bit silly to be honest. So your presumption that your friendship could grow into love was very misguided.

If you had done what is normal to do (hit that [censored] as soon as possible, or at least try to kiss her), you never would be in the situation you are in now. You would have found out early enough how she felt for it not to hurt you too much. You would be upset that this great girl wasn't into you, but it wouldn't take long at all to get over it.

Now you are in a bad situation where you are thinking about this girl. You deserve to be in this situation for your lack of emotional intelligence. It was a stupid assumption for you to make (repeating what I said above) and this is what you get for it. I estimate that this will take at least 2-3 more years for you to recover from.

On New Years Eve I was hanging out with this female friend of mine. I've known her for 12 years, but we've only been seeing each other as friends for about 6 months. So she gets drunk at this party and starts saying "Kiss me, kiss me!" I was like WTF are you [censored] serious? She's like, "You're not attracted to me? Are you physically attracted to me?" I couldn't believe what I was hearing (well, not so much that she wanted to [censored] me but that she would go so far to say this [censored] to me). You know, if I had ever been attracted to this girl, I would have made a move 12 years ago! She should know this too. So I'm pretty upset about this now because I thought I had a friend, only to find out this girl just wants to lick my stick. It's [censored] rude. Now I don't know if I can hang with her anymore.

So you deserve what you've got. Take it as a life lesson in how men and women hook up. They don't know each other for years and decide they're in love. Maybe in your fantasy world they do, but in real life if people like each other and want to make love then they go ahead and do it. What the hell do you think she was thinking? That she really liked this guy but didn't know how to tell him? That she wasn't sure how she felt lol? And you play poker?

[ChipWrecked]

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didn't contact her again till New Year's Eve.

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Oh no you di-ent.

[WilyTilt]

By the way, what was it like having sex with the prostitutes? Was it humiliating, fun, sad, plain, etc.? I'm curious at what would make a guy go to one, especially more than once.

[edfurlong]

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By the way, what was it like having sex with the prostitutes? Was it humiliating, fun, sad, plain, etc.? I'm curious at what would make a guy go to one, especially more than once.

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Girls have a bunch of awesome places to put your dick in. I'd recommend checking it out.

[nature\\\'s_hated]

Thanks for your post - and, heck, you're right. But the very first time I met her, which was at a party, I asked her for her number, so she knew I liked her. Then when a year later I got to meet her again, I sent her a valentine's card. So in the beginning she knew where I was coming from.

Where I screwed up and how I got myself into this mess was when she made clear she wasn't interested, I was so besotted with her that rather than cutting her loose, she had such a hold over me and I was so weak that I told myself being friends with her / crying over her was better than losing contact / moving on. More fool me.

And yeah last time I got laid (not that it's happened often) was with a girl I'd just met. You're right, that's how these things work.



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nature,

I read your story and found it rather moving. I once had an experience similar to this, but the circumstances were very different.

I think your mistake was to get invovled this way with this woman. You made a terrible mistake by allowing you and her to get on with one another as just friends. Things like love are not supposed to develop over years. It's not like after a year of these sporadic meetings, the two of you decide you are in love.

You have to try and tag that pussy as soon as you can. You don't [censored] wait 2 years or whatever to tell her how you feel. You should be trying to find a way to kiss her the 2nd or 3rd time you meet up with her. If she doesn't want it, that's it. You cut off the relationship because I'll tell you one thing, she's not changing her mind.

I know if I want to nail someone within 5 minutes (arguably closer to 5 milliseconds). Girls are this way too. You just don't grow to be attracted to someone. I think that idea is a bit silly to be honest. So your presumption that your friendship could grow into love was very misguided.

If you had done what is normal to do (hit that [censored] as soon as possible, or at least try to kiss her), you never would be in the situation you are in now. You would have found out early enough how she felt for it not to hurt you too much. You would be upset that this great girl wasn't into you, but it wouldn't take long at all to get over it.

Now you are in a bad situation where you are thinking about this girl. You deserve to be in this situation for your lack of emotional intelligence. It was a stupid assumption for you to make (repeating what I said above) and this is what you get for it. I estimate that this will take at least 2-3 more years for you to recover from.

On New Years Eve I was hanging out with this female friend of mine. I've known her for 12 years, but we've only been seeing each other as friends for about 6 months. So she gets drunk at this party and starts saying "Kiss me, kiss me!" I was like WTF are you [censored] serious? She's like, "You're not attracted to me? Are you physically attracted to me?" I couldn't believe what I was hearing (well, not so much that she wanted to [censored] me but that she would go so far to say this [censored] to me). You know, if I had ever been attracted to this girl, I would have made a move 12 years ago! She should know this too. So I'm pretty upset about this now because I thought I had a friend, only to find out this girl just wants to lick my stick. It's [censored] rude. Now I don't know if I can hang with her anymore.

So you deserve what you've got. Take it as a life lesson in how men and women hook up. They don't know each other for years and decide they're in love. Maybe in your fantasy world they do, but in real life if people like each other and want to make love then they go ahead and do it. What the hell do you think she was thinking? That she really liked this guy but didn't know how to tell him? That she wasn't sure how she felt lol? And you play poker?

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[capone0]

She isn't interested at all. Leave it alone. There are many other girls in the world. You might love her but if she has no interest in you, your wasting your time. Your obviously "just a friend" and nothing more. If you've known her for so long and nothing has happened, do you honestly think things are going to suddenly change.

[nature\\\'s_hated]

The thing that's bugging me is this girl's timing. Okay, so in October we're in a bar and I get drunk and tell her I'm still crazy about her. At the end of the night she tells me she's not around for the next month as she has a medical exam coming up.

A month later, straight after she finished her exams, she leaves me a voicemail message late one Saturday night saying she's free, do I want to meet up. I call her quick as a shot, and we arrange to meet the next day. We spent the day together, and it's fabulous.

Then, after that, she stops returning my calls, and doesn't reply when I try to invite her places.

Now, if she'd decided to have nothing to do with me after the drunken declaration, I'd understand.

But to do it after we've met another time, shown we still still get on fabulously and had a great time just doesn't make sense to me.

What's going on in her head?