Girl I'm dating suddenly has a boyfriend - what's my play?

[NT!]

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I'm more interested in this brand new accounts 'common hobby'. Sounds like we have something to hide. Cross-dressing enthusiasts? Model train collector? Dress up Dungeon and Dragons gaming?

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i think it's called 'LARPing'

[dcb777]

She just looks at you as a friend. Keep the relationship going like this and if it doesn't work out with this guy be more aggresive. Dating usually includes hooking up not just drinks and movies.

[Vivalution]

It is funny that some guys think they are dating a girl just because they took them on "dates."

Honestly, who keeps picking up the tab when they aren't progressing towards obtaining ass.

[cognito20]

This may be the most cynical thing I've ever posted on these boards, but I've found it, in my own personal experience, to be true.

She sounds like about 95% of the young, single women out there today...in other words, they are just going to treat you as a "friend" unless you have one of three traits that would make her want more. One, she finds you physically attractive. Two, she somehow finds out that you are....um...well-endowed and/or good in bed. Or, three, she finds your bank account physically attractive. Most young, single women will only date you if they think you are 1) hot, 2) well-hung and/or 3) rich. Note that I said "most" - there are exceptions. There are always exceptions. The 5% or so who want you for something else are, in general, the ones you want to find and commit to. It took me 14 years to find a woman like that, and I'm now married to her. Also, this doesn't apply as much to "older women", say, age 35 or above. In a lot of cases, they've been beaten up enough by life, past relationships (or the people they were in past relationships with as the case may be) and circumstances that they may just be looking for a nice guy or stability (or, as I once found out to my chagrin, a daddy for their kids). But most of the time, the younger ones want something from you.

All this is by way of saying that, dude, you're young, and this doesn't sound like the right girl, although I don't know you or her personally. Move on. There are few truer cliches than "there are plenty of fish in the ocean".

--Scott

[DrewDevil]

I disagree with some of what cognito said, but it is true that girls will throw you in the friend zone if you do not attract them... and being polite, taking them to movies and chauffeuring them around is not going to do it. Being rich and/or famous and or packing a huge schlong might do it, but if you're 0 for 3 on those, you've got to attract some other way.

You have to be confident, flirty and cross the line a little bit with sexual jokes and innuendoes. You have to let her know, somewhat but not too subtly, that you like to [censored] and that you would love to [censored] her, but that if you don't [censored] her, you're going to [censored] some other girl, etc.

"Girls don't like nice guys" is true because nice guys aren't attractive... they don't trigger any emotional response in women. They are like dead fish. Dead fish who buy drinks.