Kinda weird situation...

[27offsuit]

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Lol, you are taking this too seriously. For example, i am positive one of your firends gf's at some point has been flirty with you. Now, you know you are 100% not going to touch this chick because she is with your buddy.

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I always laugh at this twisted logic because when they do break up, you (the best friend who his gf was flirty with)are usually the first person giving her some new d*ck after the breakup.

Bad friend. Bad.

[ggbman]

No, what possible benefit could come from that? I have had pleutonic relationships with many girls where they say stuff like that, they are just venting. If she didn't like him, she wouldn't be with him, and if she wanted to be with me, she would have gone after me and not him a while. I'm sure when he is frustrated with her, he says things he woudln't want her to hear either.

[El Diablo]

gg,

You really think it is appropriate to flirt with a good friend's girlfriend when drunk and talk sht about her boyfriend?

I don't.

I'm not saying you want it to happen. I'm saying that what you consider acceptable behavior with a friend's girlfriend is very different than what I do.

As for you helping your friends learn poker, that's great. If you were my friend, though, I'd say don't worry about the poker lessons and stop playing grabass w/ my girlfriend.

[Catch of the Day]

I don't think El d. is over reacting but rather making a point. I think guys on average are tools to one another in situations like this far too often. I catch myself sometimes justifying similar crap. Rather than thinking in the back of your head that your guys chick might be into you, the right play could be to put yourself in his situation and think how you would want him to react given the opposite were true.

I have two or three guy friends that I consider to be 'true' friends, and I wouldn't trade them for X number of hoe's (assuming x > xxx). I think at times we're dicks, even to our friends, and we don't even know it.

It's not an easy thing to tell a buddy that his lady is jocking you, but if you do it for the right reasons your intentions generally become transparent. It's showing character in moments like this that deferentiate good friends from great ones.

Catch-

[Alobar]

gabe, If you wanna go I think you should. I wouldnt ask him if its ok or anything, because like you said, he will say yes either way, and all it will do is make light that his girl wants to bone the hell out of you (which she does). However, when I was there, I would pretty much completely ignore her and focus on having a great time with all your other friends, which is the reason you want to be there in the first place.

[El Diablo]

Catch,

Great post.

[Aces McGee]

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No, what possible benefit could come from that? I have had pleutonic relationships with many girls where they say stuff like that, they are just venting. If she didn't like him, she wouldn't be with him, and if she wanted to be with me, she would have gone after me and not him a while. I'm sure when he is frustrated with her, he says things he woudln't want her to hear either.

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I've had platonic (edited, thanks El D) relationships like this with girls, too. The difference is that I'm closer friends with the girl than the guy. Usually, the girl is my friend, and the guy becomes my friend after he starts dating the girl. If I'm mistaken and you are actually closer friends with the girl than the guy, my apologies.

For some things, it's not a big deal. I have a very close friend who used to lie on occasion. Not about anything major; he'd just make stuff up (he doesn't any more). His girlfriend mentioned it to me once. That's fine to talk about; it's an obvious (and admitted) personality trait of his. However, she knows what is appropriate and inappropriate for us to talk about regarding him.

Not everything about their relationship is off-limits, but certain things are; and the stuff she's said to you about your friend definitely should be taboo, in my opinion.

You really want to avoid being the confidante/sounding board on *both* sides of a relationship. It's not fair to the participants, and you could find yourself in the middle of a hellacious sh*tstorm pretty quickly.

-McGee

[Badger]

I think a very interesting social phenomenon was glossed over here.
The fact that she asked your buddy out and they are exclusive but, they are still only kind of going out. Also pointed out- she's listed as single on facebook. Does anyone else find facebook being the metric of a relationship to be amusing. Not singling out your case here gg. It's rampant.

My take on the situation since I'm already replying:
I'm not going to judge you as a friend because I don't know you- but the manner in which you phrased things, the details you included and the fact that this was too big of an issue to just ask your buddy "Hey, cool if I go to this?" leads me to believe you may not have intent but you at least have interest on some level.

[El Diablo]

Aces, gg:

Platonic.

[Raul Wong]

Wow, this is a little strange... I highly doubt this girl's boyfriend will care too much given that her last weekend of pledging when she went away he was making out with another (much less attractive) girl when I left his apartment at like 4.

I dont know what I would do. Can I post pictures of this girl with you photoshopped in there? If you dont respond in fifteen minutes I am going to take that as a 'yes, go ahead an post as many pictures of here as you want'