On not contacting Girls...

[illeagle]

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It was in the intervening period that she had a one night stand with this guy.

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Was the guy married when they had their fling? If so, uh oh, better get MAACO.

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I have no idea what MAACO means, but yeah, he was. Like I say, I think he sounds like a [censored], but i'm willing to suspend judgement as he's her friend.

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Forget the MAACO thing. Just a silly american commercial. So if she bedded this guy while he was married, are you sure this statement is true?:
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She's quite aware of how much infidelity hurts.

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[Dominic]

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I would be SO not cool with a dude buying underwear for my girl. Who cares what she likes, that guy is sending a message with that gift and that message is "I want to [censored] your girl" I think you're correct in feeling edgy.

If you know contacting her won't do any good, then don't do it, but I dunno, I think this raises some BIG red flags, especially if she's not weirded out by his gift.

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Yeah- Well I think he want's to [censored] her and to be honest he sounds like a total sleaze- but he's her friend and I see no benefit in complaining. I am wierded out by the underwear but what good would it do whining about it?

On the plus side, she's been honest with me, and no way do i want to make her feel bad about going out with her friends.

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who cares if she's being "honest" with you? Her behaviour is not acceptable. Either she's trying to get a rise out of you (not cool) or she likes the attention from another guy who wants to bone her (also not cool). Believe me, I highly doubt it's because she's a dummy who doesn't see what's not appropriate about this situation.

She should've returned the underwear immediately with a polite "thanks, but I can't accept this from you." Period.

And then to go out with him and a group of others?? Without you??

I'd make it very clear that this is not cool with you, without resorting to threats or ultimatums. Just that it does not make you happy. Be a man about it, not a whiney bitch.

WTF is wrong with this woman???

[Bluffoon]

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Maybe she just didn't want to be rude to a friend?

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Life's too short too waste on chicks that aren't worth it.

If she just didn't want to be rude, she should have told you that. And then she should have thrown them away. If she had any respect for you and the relationship at all, she wouldn't have accepted them. Dump her and find someone who will respect you enough to not put you through crap like that. This should never have been an issue.

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So what's gonna happen when he whips out his dick and asks her to suck him off? Is she gonna do it to be nice? Brit if she was so concerned with other people's feelings she wouldnt be doing this to you.

[GeniusToad]

it's in bad taste on her part to accept that kind of gift from another man imo.

[britspin]

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who cares if she's being "honest" with you? Her behaviour is not acceptable. Either she's trying to get a rise out of you (not cool) or she likes the attention from another guy who wants to bone her (also not cool). Believe me, I highly doubt it's because she's a dummy who doesn't see what's not appropriate about this situation.

She should've returned the underwear immediately with a polite "thanks, but I can't accept this from you." Period.

And then to go out with him and a group of others?? Without you??

I'd make it very clear that this is not cool with you, without resorting to threats or ultimatums. Just that it does not make you happy. Be a man about it, not a whiney bitch.

WTF is wrong with this woman???

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Well, overall, thanks OOT for making me feel a whole lot better. [/joke]

I genuinely don't think she's shagging this guy. However, i do think she's being insensitive. I didn't tell her that it was unacceptable when she told me. i should have done, but didn't. There's no point me getting mad at her about it now, but I will say that I'm unhappy with their behaviour. If she says i'm being unreasonable, then we then have a bigger problem.

OK, now that's settled, how the [censored] do I take my mind off this until tmw- without getting so drunk that i post this thread on her forum...?

[4_2_it]

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i post this thread on her forum...?

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This is the 1st sensible thing you have said in this thread.

[Bluffoon]

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who cares if she's being "honest" with you? Her behaviour is not acceptable. Either she's trying to get a rise out of you (not cool) or she likes the attention from another guy who wants to bone her (also not cool). Believe me, I highly doubt it's because she's a dummy who doesn't see what's not appropriate about this situation.

She should've returned the underwear immediately with a polite "thanks, but I can't accept this from you." Period.

And then to go out with him and a group of others?? Without you??

I'd make it very clear that this is not cool with you, without resorting to threats or ultimatums. Just that it does not make you happy. Be a man about it, not a whiney bitch.

WTF is wrong with this woman???

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Well, overall, thanks OOT for making me feel a whole lot better. [/joke]

I genuinely don't think she's shagging this guy. However, i do think she's being insensitive. I didn't tell her that it was unacceptable when she told me. i should have done, but didn't. There's no point me getting mad at her about it now, but I will say that I'm unhappy with their behaviour. If she says i'm being unreasonable, then we then have a bigger problem.

OK, now that's settled, how the [censored] do I take my mind off this until tmw- without getting so drunk that i post this thread on her forum...?

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Start looking for a new girlfriend?

[Str8 Baller]

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Maybe she just didn't want to be rude to a friend?

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The problem with this is that if she is more willing not to be rude to some guy she met on an internet message board than NOT disrespect you, then you have already lost.
I really liked the idea someone had of sending a thank you note to him and saying something to make him jealous. I think you said he was married, well when you send that note make sure it also includes a Mrs. in the address because I am 100% sure that his wife isn't encouraging this behaviour from her husband. I BTW think that this is totally uncool of her to accept(He obviously wants to see her in it), why can't he buy her almost anything else in the world or even just give cash. Ask yourself this question: "Is this guy doing something for her that he would not do for a male friend?" If you answer this question with a YES, then I would say most of the time the guy is trying to bang her.

[12ressiMorP]

Ideally, you'd like your woman to gratefully decline his present...I don't see how if she said "Thank you, but I think it is a little inappropriate for me to accept this since I am in a relationship, so no thank you." that she would have been being rude. She would have been being a perfect self-respecting woman. But like I said, that's "ideally" speaking. This is the real world where all women seem to be pigs now.

[Autocratic]

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Ideally, you'd like your woman to gratefully decline his present...I don't see how if she said "Thank you, but I think it is a little inappropriate for me to accept this since I am in a relationship, so no thank you." that she would have been being rude. She would have been being a perfect self-respecting woman. But like I said, that's "ideally" speaking. This is the real world where all women seem to be pigs now.

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WHOA WHOA WHOA. I don't know what you think you're doing sir, but this is avatar theft! Sure, I stole it from somewhere else, but not on this board you bastard!