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10-06-2006, 12:33 AM
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Re: Confusing situation involving a pregnant friend
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[ QUOTE ] [ QUOTE ] what's wrong with adoption?! [/ QUOTE ] dude, she's already going to struggle with 1 kid. [/ QUOTE ] the brilliance in this post was completely ignored by the rest of the posters, so I will chime up, post of the week for sure. NH [/ QUOTE ] this wasn't funny, which is probably why it was ignored. edit: To those suggesting adoption, I would recommend this to her, but for the whole time we dated, she always said that she would feel much more guilty giving her child up for adoption than she would having an early abortion. 
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#42
10-06-2006, 12:33 AM
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Re: Confusing situation involving a pregnant friend
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[ QUOTE ] [ QUOTE ] what's wrong with adoption?! [/ QUOTE ] dude, she's already going to struggle with 1 kid. [/ QUOTE ] the brilliance in this post was completely ignored by the rest of the posters, so I will chime up, post of the week for sure. NH [/ QUOTE ] upon further review.... vvnice.
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#43
10-06-2006, 01:27 AM
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Re: Confusing situation involving a pregnant friend
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[ QUOTE ] [ QUOTE ] [ QUOTE ] what's wrong with adoption?! [/ QUOTE ] dude, she's already going to struggle with 1 kid. [/ QUOTE ] the brilliance in this post was completely ignored by the rest of the posters, so I will chime up, post of the week for sure. NH [/ QUOTE ] this wasn't funny, which is probably why it was ignored. edit: To those suggesting adoption, I would recommend this to her, but for the whole time we dated, she always said that she would feel much more guilty giving her child up for adoption than she would having an early abortion. [/ QUOTE ] Adoption still gets my vote.
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#45
10-06-2006, 11:14 AM
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Re: Confusing situation involving a pregnant friend
Don't let the fact that you used to date her change your behavior towards her. Do what you would probably do for any female friend in a similar situation, be a good listener, accompany her to clinics or doctor visits if she wants you to, be supportive of whatever decision she makes.
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#47
10-06-2006, 11:16 AM
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Re: Confusing situation involving a pregnant friend
if you really want her then you should be supportive of her and not try to make decisions for her.
there are a lot of emotional and psychological things going on with her that you really have zero perspective on. so saying to get an abortion may be easy for you to say looking on the outside, but clearly different from her perspective. this is a decision she needs to make. she needs people to be supportive of her now, not telling her what she needs to do. she has to live with it, not you.
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#48
10-06-2006, 11:20 AM
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Re: Confusing situation involving a pregnant friend
Putting the baby up for adoption is the clear winner here. Sometimes it's not about what's convenient, but what's right. She and her boyfriend made a mistake and it's their adult responsibility to deal with it. Killing the kid is a cop out and a sleazy way to deal with a mistake they made. Give someone who's looking for a child a chance to raise a child and give her baby a chance to live. An abortion is nothing but pure selfishness and poor character, to put it nicely.
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#49
10-06-2006, 11:26 AM
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Re: Confusing situation involving a pregnant friend
Has the guy just abandoned her? Any idea what he wants to do? Is he taking any responsibility here?
What you are doing is being a stand up friend and that is what you should continue to do. Be there for her. More info about the father-to-be would be helpful....
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#50
10-06-2006, 11:43 AM
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Re: Confusing situation involving a pregnant friend
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Putting the baby up for adoption is the clear winner here. Sometimes it's not about what's convenient, but what's right. She and her boyfriend made a mistake and it's their adult responsibility to deal with it. Killing the kid is a cop out and a sleazy way to deal with a mistake they made. Give someone who's looking for a child a chance to raise a child and give her baby a chance to live. An abortion is nothing but pure selfishness and poor character, to put it nicely. [/ QUOTE ] Wow. It wouldn't take a rocket scientist to see where you're wrong here...But let's not get into the bs. OP: Let me get this straight, you've: 1. Demanded that she share her personal problem with you 2. Reminded her that she could get an abortion. 3. Sent her the link to that preggo workbook thing. 4. Offered your help if she wants to go to the doctor for any reason.. Sounds like you've covered it. Also, maybe you should consider that she really really doesn't want her ex's help when she's pregnant with another guys baby. You've told her what you think, now back off. --GA
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