Female on Paxil, Things have changed

[Doc7]

A girl I have liked (even convinced myself I am in love with, probably) for a long time, but who has been through a few sour relationships, keeping me as a "Best friend" the whole time, has recently (6 weeks?) gone on Paxil.

She is now "considering things" at her own initiative, not mine, between us.

SIIHP is not really that much of an option, there are too many emotional strings involved here.


Has anyone here known this kind of thing to happen? How much of it is Girl, and how much of it is Paxil-Girl?

[chesspain]

Paxil can interfere with sex drive and arousal, even in young women. However, I'm confused--you say she has kept you as a "best friend" throughout the whole time, which suggests that your relationship/friendship has never been about sex.

So, what's changed?

[Doc7]

It's now possible that it could go that route. She is considering going along with my always-been-open offer of a romantic relatipnship, which was not really a possibility made known to me in the past, though now she's making it pretty obvious that we could be very close to taking our relationship to a physical/etc level beyond being extremely close in intangible aspects.

[Doc7]

the paxil is having the opposite effect on her sex drive, she has told me numerous times she can't "get off" (in quotes to seem less crude lol) now due to the paxil.

[chesspain]

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the paxil is having the opposite effect on her sex drive, she has told me numerous times she can't "get off" (in quotes to seem less crude lol) now due to the paxil.

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So you've been hanging around forever in the "friend zone," convincing yourself that you are in love with a girl who is dishing to you like you are one of her girlfriends. And she now says she wants to get physical with you at the same time she is losing her sexual responsiveness.

This sounds like the plot to some John Hughes movie.

[Doc7]

lol exactly! though not sure about John Hughes movies, will google at some point.

[WhoIam]

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the paxil is having the opposite effect on her sex drive, she has told me numerous times she can't "get off" (in quotes to seem less crude lol) now due to the paxil.

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This is perfect, now you don't have to be bothered with annoyances like "technique" or "staying power"

[uncleshady]

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the paxil is having the opposite effect on her sex drive, she has told me numerous times she can't "get off" (in quotes to seem less crude lol) now due to the paxil.

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This is perfect, now you don't have to be bothered with annoyances like "technique" or "staying power"

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Exactly. Just finish in 10 seconds and be like, "I'm just trying to save you the frustration!" Or... Plan B. Buy a vibrator and let her go to town for 2 hours or whatever and right when she's about to hit, get your [censored] in there and record a save. High fives and gatorade afterwards...

[chesspain]

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It's now possible that it could go that route. She is considering going along with my always-been-open offer of a romantic relatipnship, which was not really a possibility made known to me in the past, though now she's making it pretty obvious that we could be very close to taking our relationship to a physical/etc level beyond being extremely close in intangible aspects.

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Wait...you're saying that since she has been on Paxil she is showing more interest in you sexually?

[Doc7]

Yes sexually and just in terms of being more than "just friends". Both were explicitly brought up.