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11-07-2007, 04:51 AM
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Re: What is the most tragic thing you\'ve ever had to deal with
Five years ago on the way back from visiting our grandfather and his family who lived a few hours away, my mom and my brother and I were driving back and got rear ended on the highway after making a rest stop. Our minivan spun around several times before striking a metal pole in the grass divider (no guard rails). My brother who just shy of turning 17 was killed instantly, I was about 14 at the time. Witnessing his death first hand was very traumatic for me as it would be for anybody. My mother took his death especially hard. The next few months were extremely depressing, seeing my mother crying day after day and remembering the horrible reactions to the news from his friends and fiancee is something I'll never really get over. Just thinking about it now puts me in tears. Usually I just try not to think about it, and I've done a pretty good job of that.
Pretty depressing thread topic, but as much as I hate to dwell on stuff like this I do think it's important to not forget what happened and to grieve accordingly. 
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11-07-2007, 05:00 AM
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Re: What is the most tragic thing you\'ve ever had to deal with
Lee, Lee, Lee, Lee,
Lee Lee Lee Lee Lee Lee Lee Lee Lee, We're talkin' [censored]' Lee. I had a friend named Lee, He cast a spell a spell on me. If me and Lee and KG could be three, Flyin' free Tenacious Lee, Skinny-dippin' in a sea of Lee, I'd propose on bended knee To Lee Lee Lee, Lee Lee Lee, Lee Lee, Lee Lee Lee, Lee Lee Lee, Lee Lee, Le-Lut-Le-Le-Le-Lee Lee Lee, Le-Lut-Le-Le-Le-Lee Lee, If me, and Lee, and KG, (that's me) Could be three, (could be three) Plant a tree, (plant a tree) Just for Lee, (just for Lee) Just for Lee, (Lee) Just for Lee! Lee, Lee, Lee: ["Psycho" Knife Song style, 16X] Leeee, Leeee, Leeee: LEE! /sorry
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11-07-2007, 05:08 AM
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Re: What is the most tragic thing you\'ve ever had to deal with
My dad and grandpa(mom's side) died within several months of each other. I was really young(5 or so) but it still gets to me sometimes(I'm 18 now). Especially so because my dad had a heart attack while my mom was at work, 3rd shift. I went upstairs to go to bed...came back downstairs because I needed a pillow, and he was lying on the floor. I thought he was messing around, because he was like that...Tried to wake him up for God knows how long, until my mom called from work. I still remember telling her, "Dad's asleep...he won't wake up". I can't even imagine how she felt at that moment.
I always wonder what would have happened if I was one of those genetically engineered preschoolers that know how to use 911.
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#4
11-07-2007, 06:13 AM
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Re: What is the most tragic thing you\'ve ever had to deal with
WTF with all the retardation in this thread???
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#5
11-07-2007, 06:20 AM
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Re: What is the most tragic thing you\'ve ever had to deal with
aisle, your 16 yr old brother had a fiance??? wtf?
for me it was my mom dying very suddenly 2 years ago when i was away in spain. i got a call, got on the next plane, and she was gone within a few hours... i never really got a chance to talk to her or say anything conscious to her again. i don't know which is worse - suddenly without the chance to really say everything you wanna say and get used to the idea, or slowly and having to deal with your parent being in an awful state. anyways, i dont talk to my dad anymore so it's just me and my brother now, 23 and 24... we're figuring it out though, slowly but surely.
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#6
11-07-2007, 04:47 PM
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Re: What is the most tragic thing you\'ve ever had to deal with
For what it's worth, even if you had known how to call 911 the chances of your father surviving were likely very low.
From the time someone goes down, you've got about 5 minutes to restore cerebral perfusion (oxygen) to prevent brain damage, maybe 10 minutes to prevent brain death. The chances of paramedics responding that quickly to a 911 call are, to be generous, remote - they'd basically have to be parked outside your house. Even IF you get that fast a response, the survival rate for true cardiac arrests is low - I'll see maybe one or two a year out of our department. MM MD
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#7
11-07-2007, 05:03 PM
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Re: What is the most tragic thing you\'ve ever had to deal with
for me personally it was the loss of one of my best friends shortly after we all finished college. a 23 year-old guy ran a bunch of cars off the road before slamming into my friend who was going through the green light at the intersection. my friend died instantly and the guy who hit him pleaded insanity and said that he was on a mission from the devil to kill as many people as possible. the guy was free less than 6 months later.
a close second was when the kid that i mentor (11 years old at the time) found out that his dad who had been released from prison 8 months earlier was dead. the dad had been missing for 6 months before word got back that he had died and his body was burned at a homeless encampment. lastly, another good friend of mine lost his older brother to a heroin overdose just after high school. then his little brother committed suicide 6 years later on the anniversary of the oldest brother's death. it was later discovered that the youngest brother had been writing letters to the oldest brother for years after he had died.
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#8
11-07-2007, 05:45 PM
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Re: What is the most tragic thing you\'ve ever had to deal with
Definitely this
I've been thinking of writing up a long and more detailed version of the back-story.. something that I think will be therapeutic and needed. Maybe post it in EDF. Maybe not. But it's too soon
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#9
11-07-2007, 06:01 PM
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Re: What is the most tragic thing you\'ve ever had to deal with
When I was 20 years old, I had a very brief fling with a girl who was good very good friends with one of my buddies from school. This happened over Christmas break. She had told me that alot of things were going on in her life, and that she didnt want a boyfriend, so I just left it at a fling.
When we got back to school, my buddy told me that both her parents were very sick, and that she dropped out of school to work and help her parents take care of her little brother. He was 14 and she was 20. As it turns out, her mom had brain cancer and her dad had prostate cancer. 2 months after Christman break, her mom died. 3 months later, her dad died. To this day it is one of the more tragic things that I have known anyone personaly ro go through.
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#10
11-07-2007, 06:13 PM
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Re: What is the most tragic thing you\'ve ever had to deal with
My best friends mother, died when he was 23 from brain and lung cancer, never smoked, was a doctor, had a great family.
Almost a year later three or four days from the anniversary of her death my friends younger brother, 22, while at college randomly drops dead from a random brain aneurysm while sitting at his computer. To this day I still wonder how he got through that crap.
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