Girls refusing to move in with a guy without a ring

[xxThe_Lebowskixx]

there is something sickening about the way some women try to put pressure on a guy to commit to them.

[Kneel B4 Zod]

my last GF wanted a ring before I moved in. she broke up with me before I got around to buying it.

true story.

[Cream Soda]

I don't even know why we are discussing these two people because they are going to do what they want to regardless.

I'm not really a fan of shelling out advice, I am lucky when I figure out my own life, never mind telling other people what I think they should do with theirs.

Think back to a relationship you've had that others might not have agreed with. If anything, when people don't support me, it only distances me from them because I don't want to constantly hear the [censored]. You want to have a good time in their presence, not constantly talk about what they think is best for you.
No amount of advice will affect them, they are adults, they can figure it out.
If they [censored] up, oh well, it happens.

I don't think she is being unreasonable, she may have different morals and values then a lot of us but that doesn't make her unreasonable.
Not sure I could personally do it her way, but hey, different relationships make it work different ways.

[Maple Leafs]

Huge difference between "I want a ring before I move in, but no rush" and "I want a ring before I move in and I want it right now".

[SackUp]

Standard girl play. I agree with her too. I do not plan on moving in with my girlfriend prior to marriage.

[The Dude]

I don't see anything unreasonable about her stance at all. Now, of course it's possible that she's using this as leverage to get engaged sooner, and obviously that's bad, but it doesn't sound like that's the case. She's in no hurry to move in with him, and why should she be?

[stormstarter28]

I think she's being very reasonable. Then again, I don't believe people should live together before they're married. Then again, I don't believe in pre-marital sex, so what do I know?

[captZEEbo]

I think this is standard girl procedure to ensure that they get engaged eventually. If a guy had no real desire to get married, he'd have no incentive if they were living together. It takes a big leap of faith for a girl to move in with a guy.

Another reason is it emotionally protects the girl in case they break up. Moving in together is like one more big commitment getting closer to the person, and if the guy isn't ready to commit, some girls aren't ready to make that leap.

[seke2]

My then-girlfriend moved in back in October, we got engaged in early March. Personally, I'm of the mindset that you SHOULD live with someone prior to being engaged or at least prior to being married because determining whether or not you CAN live together well is pretty freaking important when it comes to the rest of your lives.

When she moved in, we were already pretty sure we were heading towards eventual engagement/marriage, but we didn't really start talking seriously about that until December/January.

My fiancee is amazingly reasonable, though, she probably isn't the norm for the gender when it comes to these things.

[daryn]

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My girlfriend and I have been talking about marriage a lot lately. She doesn't want to move in together before then and I agree with her view on the subject. The moving in for the first time is part of the new adventure of a married couple. Otherwise there is no real difference then one day you both came back with new jewelry on, not that special.

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Too funny coming out of the mouth of a single dude.

WTF do people feel the need to constantly talk out of their ass about [censored] they do not know anything about.

J

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i dunno, that sounds pretty spot on to me. granted i am not married, but i do have a few married friends that i know would agree