Convincing the wife .... - Page 4

#31 03-08-2007, 02:29 AM

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it's the same as convincing her to let you have anal. you need to soften her up over a couple days and let her see how pleased it will make her to see you happy because youre such a great guy. it takes some time and thought. flowers, kind words, love stuff. dont talk about it all the time though, just keep it silently in mind it's what youre working toward. arguing "ah cmon youll like it, it wont hurt, im not even big" will only shut her down completely. chances are youll get your way if you have any sort of savvy and charm.

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Well at least he didn't saying to use the spit in the hole and ram it in approach.
But in response to OP - as a woman I am often embarrassed by other women's antics - she is being very closed minded and using a double standard. Many people don't see lotteries and poker being the same thing but it is. However,my guess is she's not mad about poker - only you are not paying attention to her. Not saying it's right but what can ya do? Sit talk and talk with her about it; don't lose your cool and and work out a deal. If you lose your cool she'll only use that too against you.
Sigh...men and women should be allowed time to do their own thing in even in a married relationship. Cooperation, compromise and understanding is the key. This just makes me love my man more. Good luck OP.

PokerGenius · #32 03-08-2007, 03:16 AM

What web site is this?

orensi · #33 03-09-2007, 03:25 PM

OK. First ignore all the single-ignorants responses here.
Women are frightened from the unknown. They need to have control over things. This isnt necessarily a bad thing but thats beside the point. The only way I could get my wife to be ok with poker was to put a limit on the initial amount of money that I was "allowed" to spend on this new hobby. I deposited $200 and we agreed that if I lost it that was the end. I lost it (I sucked). I then got a $60 belated signup bonus which I turned into a kickass bankroll. I did a few 2k cashouts and "showed her the money". No problems with my hobby since (of course the regular "how late did you stay up on the comp.??" but hey - thats standard).