how to help a young kid

[xxThe_Lebowskixx]

"My recommendation is to introduce him to chess"

Did you read the OP?

[absoludicrous]

JaBlue,

Like you, I have a brother (11, 6th grade) who is very intellectual, has a great sense of humor, and yet is quiet, and may lack some confidence. He's not gifted in athletic ability, father wasn't athletic (not my dad) and mom is so so.

Anyway, he's taking a shear liking to soccer and basketball. Both of which challenge him, and allow his inner competetiveness to be challenged. No, he's not the next Kevin Garnett (he's not black either) and I'm sure he won't be playing in the World Cup, but he has found two sports, of which he is decnet at, and loves.

The key to building confidence is through honest praise. If you're playing bball, and he makes a shot, let him know. Even if he's misses a shot or two, or whatever, let him know he has good form, and what not. Build his confidence for him. Kids this age are image conscious, especially once they reach middle school, and they really cannot help it.

Lastly, I know it's hard, I live 2k miles from my brothers (11, 9, 13 yrs old) and I really regret moving away from them. But, you need to be there for him even when you can't. Call him up, ask him how school is going, talk to him about certain subjects, interests. Develop interests with him and stuff. Just throw out feelers, have a conversation with him.

You showing interest in him will give him a sense of assurance, and will help with social skills and things like that.

[xxThe_Lebowskixx]

Ja,

Pay for karate classes.

[xxThe_Lebowskixx]

Ja,
Euro trip report?

[testaaja]

Pool/darts sounds like a plan to me.