Female on Paxil, Things have changed

[El Diablo]

ads,

Not familar with 'Doctors and Nurses' party game, please provide detailed explanation, thx.

[adsman]

Ok, it's important to understand with doctors and nurses, (D&S), that this is NOT a dress-up party. If you want to have a dress-up party then you need to play Pirates and Princesses.
The hardest part of D&S is that you need to get them into the bedroom. My preferred method of getting them into my bedroom is to offer to show them my toy soldier collection. If you're at her house then I recommend that you ask her if she likes the colour pink, and if so to prove it.
Once in the bedroom it's important to sit on the bed. It would be good if she sits on the bed too. Then you tell her that when you grow up you want to be a doctor. Usually at this point girls say that they'd like to be a nurse! If she doesn't you can ask her if she'd like to be a nurse when she grows up.
The next stage is to suggest practicing for when you get older. Tell her that you're going to be the doctor and she is the patient. You have to find out what is wrong with her. Lie her down on the bed but NOT UNDER THE COVERS!! This is important. Then tell her to take off her pink sweater as you need to 'examine' her. Here you have to use your imagination. Maybe the 'sickness' is in her foot. Or her hand. Or her ear. Just examine whatever it is that you feel happy examining. After a certain point you tell her that you've identified her problem and now you have to 'cure' her.
Curing is a tricky grey area. I once knew a boy whose cure was a body massage but this seemed a bit too heavy for me. I like a gentle body tickle. This makes them happy.
The best bit of D&N is when YOU are the patient. This is the next stage. Now you are completely at her mercy and she can do whatever she wants with you.
Good times.

[zephed]

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Hopey:

That situation is as close to this as any I ever heard. If by "got farther" you mean the make-out thing that doesn't really count, she's made a comment about how that was pretty much meaningless.

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It was important to you. You're letting her control your thoughts man! Stop it.

When she said this, you should have told her wtf ARE YOU KIDDING ME?, go [censored] yourself.

[zephed]

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Doc,

Wow. I hadn't read this thread until now. Since it kept getting bumped I figured it had something interesting in it - I just read the whole thing!

OK, sounds like you are flying by the seat of your pants too much and need to think up a plan of action here, otherwise you will keep getting close but never really moving things forward. Also, you don't want to risk moving too fast, that has the potential to screw things up. You've been making consistent progress so far, don't want to mess that up.

Here is what I would suggest.

First, go for five or six more "TV dates" where you just chill. 24, Wheel of Fortune, etc. Have a beer or two while watching and maybe touch her a little, like grab her hand or give her a silly punch or something. I know this is repeating some of what you've already done, but it will be good to really reinforce the solid foundation you have with her.

After you have done that, do the same thing, except work in some bets. Like, when Jack Bauer has someone in some hold, say something like "I bet I could do that too" and then when she says "whatever" get her in that hold and then tickle her. Just do that for a second, then let her up. Another thing you can do is say, OK, let's bet on Wheel of Fortune who gets the next clue. Then bet her sometihng like if you win you get to brush her hair and if she wins you will do her homework. During these dates, try and get a little more forward, like maybe give her a hug or something.

OK, after you've gone through those steps and things are still going well, time to move things to the next level. Tell her you're going to grab a burger or Taco Bell or something and ask her to come along. Try and know her schedule beforehand so you know she is free. Except, when you're driving, say "you know what, I changed my mind" and go to like Chili's or something instead. Tell her you had a craving for Chili's and since you're dragging her along, it's on you. Then have lunch or dinner or whatever with her. Don't make a big deal about this date, but at the end definitely give her a hug or something. One thing you can do here is get some fries and then say "wow, taste this" and feed her one. Make sure you hvae one in your hand first so she doesn't have a chance to just grab one off your plate. Also, maybe order one dessert that the two of you can share, that is pretty romantic and one thing you can do is kind of grab for it as the same time she does so your spoons hit each other and your hands kind of bump into each other.

Having gone on a first semi-date like that, think about another activity date. One idea would be to go visit her parents again and go watch a movie with them. Try to do it on the later side so her parents will want to go home right after then take her out for a beer or something. Then take her back home. Nothing has happened here, but you are getting ready for the next phase.

OK, back at school now, tell her how much fun you had at the movies with her and her parents and how much you're looking forward to doing it again. Say this on like a Tuesday. Then, on Thursady or so, tell her you really can't wait to see a movie again and would like to go ahead and go now instead of waiting for her parents. This time, you can have a few more beers after. This will also be a good time to give her a hug after beers and say something like "hey, i really like you."

OK, this is probably a few months worht of work, but I think if you take it slow and steady like this instead of just jumping around randomly the way you have, you have a really good shot.

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Oh wow that was amazing.

[Dominic]

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It's just not going to happen, guys. the following trip report is going to disappoint you a great deal, as to me it reads like someting out of freakin dirty romance novels until you hit the end where nothing happens.

Earlier this afternoon we were talking about some [censored] or another in my room and urbandictionary.com was being used, and i slyly mentioned having looked up something she mentioned a few weeks ago. she got semi pissed when i didn't tell her what the word was.

fast forward to 5 hours later. (EDIT: we've moved to her room, and i am drinking beers and reading SSHE while she is studying for an exam) she bribes me to tell her the first letter and how many letters the word is by letting me brush her ridiculously awesome hair. at first i was like um, hell no, that's a pretty crappy deal. but then i realized the opportunities having my hands in her hair would afford, so i agreed. ~30 minutes later she's still sitting there with the notecard wheel-of-fortune stlye trying to figure out the word, and i convince her out of her jeans and into shorts she got the other day that are maybe 6 inches long. at this point im sitting on her bed behind her in a low-to-the floor chair, ogling her legs propped on the fridge and by this point mostly just trying to keep my hands on her neck instead of hair as much as possible (like most girls, her neck is a big turn-on zone, or so she says and i believe)

a while of this goes by and i'm moving my hands out and basically rubbing her shoulders, going a little up and down a few inches on the sides of her arms with my fingers. this goes on for 2-3 minutes when she goes "um, you're not doing the thing with my hair." and leans forward a bit. i say something along the lines of "heh well i just enjoying myself" and she says "Not. Part. Of. The. Deal." ouch.

few more minutes goes by, she is freaking out trying to get the word (which the entire time i'm trying to convince her is not worth her time to try to guess...i dunno if i was being retarded or using reverse psych. probably retarded reverse psych.) and i talk her out of the zip-down sweater she is wearing over a tiny little frilly shirt underneath.

so at this point i have talked her out of her jeans into short-shorts, her sweater down to something that she probably wouldn't wear out often (at school), and i'm all up in her hair and back of her neck. she solves the word with the newest letter in ~10 seconds, puts back on and zips up the sweatshirt, and says she wants to go to sleep now.

BZZZZZT.


EDIT: the word was not disgusting, but it's also something i don't care to repost here. it may have had a little to do with her giving me the boot (it was something we had discussed a few weeks back after our little make-out session, when she mentioned something she likes better than just kissing. i wanted to see a general populace definition of the word rather than what i had in my head. she had the information when trying to guess the word that i had looked it up to see what she had meant by it rather than my personal definition.

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Doc. The priesthood is calling. Seriously...you need to give up on women. This is beyond painful to read.

[Tappy Tibbons]

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Doc,

Wow. I hadn't read this thread until now. Since it kept getting bumped I figured it had something interesting in it - I just read the whole thing!

OK, sounds like you are flying by the seat of your pants too much and need to think up a plan of action here, otherwise you will keep getting close but never really moving things forward. Also, you don't want to risk moving too fast, that has the potential to screw things up. You've been making consistent progress so far, don't want to mess that up.

Here is what I would suggest.

First, go for five or six more "TV dates" where you just chill. 24, Wheel of Fortune, etc. Have a beer or two while watching and maybe touch her a little, like grab her hand or give her a silly punch or something. I know this is repeating some of what you've already done, but it will be good to really reinforce the solid foundation you have with her.

After you have done that, do the same thing, except work in some bets. Like, when Jack Bauer has someone in some hold, say something like "I bet I could do that too" and then when she says "whatever" get her in that hold and then tickle her. Just do that for a second, then let her up. Another thing you can do is say, OK, let's bet on Wheel of Fortune who gets the next clue. Then bet her sometihng like if you win you get to brush her hair and if she wins you will do her homework. During these dates, try and get a little more forward, like maybe give her a hug or something.

OK, after you've gone through those steps and things are still going well, time to move things to the next level. Tell her you're going to grab a burger or Taco Bell or something and ask her to come along. Try and know her schedule beforehand so you know she is free. Except, when you're driving, say "you know what, I changed my mind" and go to like Chili's or something instead. Tell her you had a craving for Chili's and since you're dragging her along, it's on you. Then have lunch or dinner or whatever with her. Don't make a big deal about this date, but at the end definitely give her a hug or something. One thing you can do here is get some fries and then say "wow, taste this" and feed her one. Make sure you hvae one in your hand first so she doesn't have a chance to just grab one off your plate. Also, maybe order one dessert that the two of you can share, that is pretty romantic and one thing you can do is kind of grab for it as the same time she does so your spoons hit each other and your hands kind of bump into each other.

Having gone on a first semi-date like that, think about another activity date. One idea would be to go visit her parents again and go watch a movie with them. Try to do it on the later side so her parents will want to go home right after then take her out for a beer or something. Then take her back home. Nothing has happened here, but you are getting ready for the next phase.

OK, back at school now, tell her how much fun you had at the movies with her and her parents and how much you're looking forward to doing it again. Say this on like a Tuesday. Then, on Thursady or so, tell her you really can't wait to see a movie again and would like to go ahead and go now instead of waiting for her parents. This time, you can have a few more beers after. This will also be a good time to give her a hug after beers and say something like "hey, i really like you."

OK, this is probably a few months worht of work, but I think if you take it slow and steady like this instead of just jumping around randomly the way you have, you have a really good shot.

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All of this is terrible advice, and guaranteed to get you nowhere closer with this girl than you are now.

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You are incredibly dense.

[El Diablo]

Tappy,

Everyone needs to move at their own speed with a style that's comfortable to them. Perhaps the techniques that have worked for you are not the same as the ones that will be most effective for Doc.

[zephed]

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Tappy,

Everyone needs to move at their own speed with a style that's comfortable to them. Perhaps the techniques that have worked for you are not the same as the ones that will be most effective for Doc.

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Is that how you bang all the hot bitches?

[El Diablo]

zeph,

Yes. Like Doc, I like to take things slow. The key is having a good plan.