Female on Paxil, Things have changed

[Doc7]

I'm also not sure about the making moves fast enough. a little bit into the hair brushing thing, she made a joke about how i was probably enjoying this in certain ways. i made another innuendo back at her (edit: about having an erection as she was suggestiing NOT whacking off or something weird like that), and she turned around and said "you better not or you can go back to your room or something" as she eyeballed my crotch to make sure i wasn't sporting wood.

luckily i'm good at concealing that kind of thing (AND/OR I am not that well endowed. You be the judge.)

[b]edit: the point of this post is to say that making "moves" faster would not have been received well.

[Blarg]

If you realize it's not going to happen and move on to greener pastures(like practically any pasture would be), it's actually a happy day, your first day of giving more of a damn about yourself. As William Wallace would shout, "Freedom!"

If this is just another entry in the continuing history of your torturing yourself and getting ignored and kicked around, remember you're torturing us all by proxy too, and for God's sake take it easy on us man, we're fragile and sh*t and can't take the abuse you can.

[Doc7]

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1. Finding her clitoris
2. Rubbing it.


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This reminded me. She talked to her doctor yesterday or the day before about the sexual siide effects of paxil. she is now easing herself off of it by only taking half-doses and is planning on getting off it entirely. this means that soon enough she's going to be back at her getting-herself-off-and-telling-me-about-it self, which will make things even harder (in more ways than one). she's not going to be missing sex so much.

[Cancer Merchant]

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This reminded me. She talked to her doctor yesterday or the day before about the sexual siide effects of paxil. she is now easing herself off of it by only taking half-doses and is planning on getting off it entirely. this means that soon enough she's going to be back at her getting-herself-off-and-telling-me-about-it self, which will make things even harder (in more ways than one). she's not going to be missing sex so much.

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Exactly. And it won't be with you. The brushing her hair bit moved you into the friend zone, if you're not already one of the girls.

[Doc7]

Cancer:

She is VERY aware of my deal with her and her hair. She knew at the time when she offered it to me that it was very much a sexual thing for me, so I don't think this moved me any farther into the friend zone than I already was.

[TimM]

You were dead in the water so long ago. Once she realized she can manipulate you into doing anything she wants, and you never dare try to cross any line she sets, she will see you as a total pussy with zero chance of ever being exciting to her. You are her plaything, and not in the good way.

[Tappy Tibbons]

I'm guessing you're intelligent and used to being right, so this may not do any good, but I honesly want to help you (having been in a similar situation/mindset). You made just about every mistake possible with this girl - you have no game. Fortunately, this can be learned - here are some places to start:

Here
and here

[Blarg]

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Cancer:

She is VERY aware of my deal with her and her hair. She knew at the time when she offered it to me that it was very much a sexual thing for me, so I don't think this moved me any farther into the friend zone than I already was.

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What's one more nail in the coffin?

[Doc7]

i DO cross lines, and she keeps rejecting them. the arm around her, the whole thing where i tried to turn brushing her hair into a massage, etc. i'm making the effort here, she is just being a tease.

(probably a bitch one at that, but i'm still letting things play out)

[Blarg]

Every time she rejects you, she is giving you a clue.