Possible depression, any advice?

[PartyGirlUK]

Pls do exercise, FORCE yourself to get out of your house and interact with people. I know a lot, Ive been there, my advice is good and necessary.

[Scary_Tiger]

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There is a forum called "Psychology" that may give you better advice.

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Psychology is under General Gambling. This would appear to have nothing to do with Gambling.

[BEP]

Sounds like the large majority of your pain is from the breakup. From what I read I don't think you are depressed.

[cliche]Time heals all.[/cliche]

Concentrate on school the next few weeks and kick ass on your finals. Drop one of your classes next semester and take a lighter load. Concentrate on making some new friends and having a more relaxing and fun semester.

[CharlieDontSurf]

No need to see doctor.

Hit the gym every day--lots of cardio---swimming would be perfect...get outdoors and go mountain biking, hiking, etc.

guaranteed yr feel better at the end of the week--though u will be sore.

[Lazy Meatball]

being depressed from a crappy set of circumstances seems completely normal to me. Stress from school will wear you down, but it's most likely the break up which left you with the kicked when you're down feeling. Obviously only time will help you get over your ex. I have no advice for dealing with your studies other that you know what's best for you, and it's almost over so just do it. Of course telling myself that that never worked for me, but I most likely experience clinical depression from time to time. Hopefully pouring yourself into your studies will take your mind of you personal life.

[krazyace5]

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No need to see doctor.

Hit the gym every day--lots of cardio---swimming would be perfect...get outdoors and go mountain biking, hiking, etc.

guaranteed yr feel better at the end of the week--though u will be sore.

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I agree with charlie, although I was going to suggest weightlifting, but you get the picture.

[akishore]

Are there any tips or tricks to motivate myself to work? I can't find any motivation to begin, and I think starting is the hardest part. I open up assignments and just stare at them for a minute and just close it because I have no motivation to start. Thanks.

[Lazy Meatball]

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Are there any tips or tricks to motivate myself to work? I can't find any motivation to begin, and I think starting is the hardest part. I open up assignments and just stare at them for a minute and just close it because I have no motivation to start. Thanks.

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Yeah, I had those problems too. I dropped out, got a job and started drinking. Let me know when you figure it out.

[Cornell Fiji]

If you see a doctor they won't have you making crazy paintings to determine if you are insane.

Many completely sane people have been helped greatly by seeing a psycologist. You have counselors on campus. Use them!

The hardest part will be making that appointment but after you get over that hump you will be glad that you did

[Blarg]

As a fellow depressive, I caution you against anything that may contribute to the effect of spiraling downward. You need to spiral upward and out of it.

Stay away from facebook! And anything that rubs in your sadness and loneliness. That includes drugs and booze.

Get yourself into work, if not overwork. This is the PERFECT opportunity to not only excel, but make excelling a positive definition in your spirit of who and what you are. Work like hell. You have nothing better to do, right? Kick the hell out of your challenges to the best of your ability and in your own soul you will be a hero regardless of whether you meet anyone else's standards. You will know YOU DID IT.

Working extremely hard also does the vital task of taking your mind off things until you have the necessary distance as a depressive to consider them in perspective. A true depressive can find himself with no way out as each thing gets exaggerated in importance until just drawing a breath and moving from a chair feels like an admission of crushing defeat and some perverse proof of failure. Each thought can seem pointless and so self-defeating that complete numbness can seem the only psychological salvation. Stay out of that sh*t.

Pile on accomplishments one by one, slowly, being sure to recognize each one. You MUST, to be emotionally and truly honest, accept every good thing and accomplishment with the identical honesty you accept every disappointment. You are cheating otherwise, and pointlessly self-indulgent and wallowing. At that point, you can only blame yourself.

Credit yourself instead. Work, work, work like a friggin' monkey. I guarantee you what with incremental improvement every day, you cannot help but have accomplishments. From there, it's a matter of acknowledging to yourself your accomplishments. And once you get the ball rolling, you make momentum a possibiity. A ball sitting there motionless does nothing. You need that momentum. Push yourself! Even if you don't care, don't believe, don't have any faith in it.

Slowly, relentlessly, IF you are honest, life will seem better. Unless you refuse to value yourself, and choose to wallow in a downward spiral. If you do the latter, forget what I said and just get medicine. And even that may be too little too late, because you can't escape volition no matter how much depression may suggest that you can, and that it is irrelevant.

The worst thing you can do is wallow. Like smokers find it near impossible to quit smoking if they hang around the people and activities involved with smoking(parties, old smoker friends, etc.), and drinkers find the same thing, you can't kick depression if you keep growing and nourishing in your mind the same old thought and desire patterns that call forth your depression. Facebook. looking at old pics of your girlfriend, whatever ... you have to dump that sh*t.

If you are a major depressive, you can't. So you have to substitute it with something. Instead of substituting it with something negative, find yourself a huge challenge and substitute that. You have big college worries right now.

This is a fantastic opportunity for you.

After you conquer college problems to the best of your ability, so you don't suddenly deflate when you've reached your goals that were keeping you healthy. Plan out new challenges before you finish the old.

DO NOT let yourself wallow. DO NOT rehearse old behavior and old memories, imprinting them all deeper.

GET BUSY!

Prisoners of war never get cancer. They only get it after they're released. Here's a phrase I hate -- "Think about it."