Significant Other Gains A Large Amount Of Fat

[SamIAm]

I've always thought gentle nudging together would do the trick. "Hey, baby-sugarcakes-pie, let's go to the gym together. When do you think we should go?"

Do whatever cardio she wants. You won't fool her, but gently giving her the message is part of the point.
-Sam

[Dan R]

Good blog by your wife Borodog. I could have used a smaller number Guids, I agree with you that 20 lbs. is probably too much. I realize that overtime fat levels increase somewhat, but I would not accept a large immediate increase, or too a point beyond normal increase. I told the people at my work I would do everything I could to help my significant other to lose the weight, but if she put no effort at all, and was not losing the weight I would end the relationship.

I really do not think its being a jerk or anything, it comes down to you entered the relationship being attracted to the woman based on her mental capability, and her looks, and other aspects. If she lets her looks or body image go to hell your not with the same woman. She has not held up to her end of the deal in a sense. If I gained 20-30 pounds of fat I would expect the woman to leave me.

It may be needless to say, but the women involved in the converstation now think I am a bigger a-hole than they already did, lucky for me the ones mad at me have 70+ pounds to lose.

[jeffraider]

You're a lucky guy, Borodog!

[MelchyBeau]

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To the best of your knowledge the person has gained fat because of newfound laziness, and knowledge that he or she no longer needs to keep in quite as good shape because he or she is in a meaningful relationship. You have kept yourself in about the same shape as the two years ago time period, so you are still looking great, congratulations.

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That person no longer values you, kick him/her to the curb.

Melch

[Blarg]

I noticed that in the other thread. Nice to see a woman writing with reason about such a thing, instead of making or enabling excuses.

I would take a partner not wanting to be sexually attractive to me as extremely dispiriting and a kind of sexual abandonment, as well as an emotional one. I would take someone wanting me to be sexually attracted to her no matter how badly she let herself go as selfish and irrational.

[econophile]

OOT guide to lyposuction

[Klompy]

Strange because I just had this convo with my roomate, we decided the absolute cutoff was 45lbs gained before you have to break up or tell her she has to lose some weight if this is someone you actualy care about. In reality though you're probably getting upset way before this.

[Dale Dough]

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It may be needless to say, but the women involved in the converstation now think I am a bigger a-hole than they already did, lucky for me the ones mad at me have 70+ pounds to lose.

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70 pounds??? And they had the balls to participate in this conversation in the first place?

Women that are 70 pounds overweight should be too [censored] ashamed to talk about anything fat-related other than 'I really REALLY need to lose this and will do xyz to accomplish that.' Women who are 70 pounds overweight and show behavior indicating that they are not ashamed, and somehow defend themselves for being that fat, deserve to be ridiculed and put down in public.

Damn, how [censored] hard is it to stay in reasonable shape? I understand, metabolism slows down and what not, but there is simlpy no excuse for 70 pounds. My mom had 5 kids, doesn't really exercise, no unusual diet, and is nowhere near 70 pounds overweight.

[sdunsmb]

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Get rid of her. Not rocket science imo.

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FYP

[El Ishmael]

End it, quickly.