Female on Paxil, Things have changed - Page 17

chesspain · #**161** 03-18-2006, 01:51 PM

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I cannot and will not be "drunk guy number 9 in 2 months". I just can't do that.

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We all understand completely--that the latter has nothing to do with the former.

Doc7 · #**162** 03-18-2006, 01:51 PM

Clarify?

By my post I meant that I would certainly have sex with her but NOT if I got the impression that tomorrow night she'll be having sex with some other guy.

Hopey · #**163** 03-18-2006, 01:57 PM

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Weds, im in new york for an interview, she calls me to see how things are going when i am on the way home, and says she'll talk to me later. then falls off the face of the earth till 2 PM thursday. Turns out she got REALLY drunk weds night, made out with and light-petting a female stripper while wearing stripper clothes the professional provided to her [this was like an after-hours thing at some dudes house] AND got felt up by at least one [censored] and possibly one guy who she has described as nice.

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So...she knows that you really like her...but then she gets all weirded out by you putting your arm around her...and then gets passed around at a stripper party and feels the need to tell you all about it? This girl has issues.

I'm telling you right now, this girl is going to destroy you. You like her too much, and I don't think that she's *capable* of returning your feelings. From all that you've told us, she seems flaky and self-absorbed (which most 20 year girls are). You're setting yourself up for a fall.

I still hope you bang her, though. Otherwise you'll be wondering for the rest of your life what it would have been like to screw her.

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at my obvious disappointment in these events occuring, she says:
"nice guys dont finish last, you're like someone i could marry, but im 20 years old and youre right, sometimes assholes are more fun in terms of those things at this age but id never want to marry any of them"

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I don't know how you are supposed to take that? It's a backhanded compliment.

And I have to reiterate the fact that I can't believe that she saw nothing wrong with telling you about the orgy she attended. She *has* to know that this sort of thing will hurt you, yet she does it anyway. She either likes the attention she gets by making you jealous, or she's just too self-absorbed to care that she's hurting your feelings.

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also i'm pretty sure i am falling way behind here, mostly because I cannot and will not be "drunk guy number 9 in 2 months". i just can't do that.

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Honestly, just go ahead and bang her. It won't make you like her any more than you already do, trust me. You couldn't possibly like her any more than you already do, so don't use that as an excuse to chicken out.

siccjay · #**164** 03-18-2006, 01:59 PM

Will you just stop being a pussy and bang this girl and then take it from there. It will make your life a lot easier.

Hopey · #**165** 03-18-2006, 02:00 PM

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Clarify?

By my post I meant that I would certainly have sex with her but NOT if I got the impression that tomorrow night she'll be having sex with some other guy.

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I think it's obvious that she's not looking for a relationship. This is why she's been keeping you at arms' length. If she didn't think that you'd get really attached once she banged you, she'd already have banged you by now.

Just go ahead and bang her. However, don't consider this as somehow "consumating" your relationship.

If she goes and bangs another guy tomorrow, it will bother you just as much if you haven't banged her as it will if you do bang her. The reason being is that it's going to bother you A LOT either way.

tuq · #**166** 03-18-2006, 02:01 PM

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There are women everywhere starving for a bone. For the good of humanity, give it to someone who will use it.

Hopey · #**167** 03-18-2006, 02:02 PM

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Will you just stop being a pussy and bang this girl and then take it from there. It will make your life a lot easier.

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Hopefully Doc will realize that we've all been in his situation before, and we're only giving him this advice out of experience.

Doc7 · #**168** 03-18-2006, 02:08 PM

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If she goes and bangs another guy tomorrow, it will bother you just as much if you haven't banged her as it will if you do bang her.

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I think a bright light just flashed in front of me.

siccjay · #**169** 03-18-2006, 02:18 PM

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Will you just stop being a pussy and bang this girl and then take it from there. It will make your life a lot easier.

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Hopefully Doc will realize that we've all been in his situation before, and we're only giving him this advice out of experience.

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Amen brother.

gasoltub · #**170** 03-18-2006, 02:26 PM

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she says "WHAT! I have to initiaite things!" i said "um don't you remember the whole thing about your ex boyfriend and 'i need more time, let me make the next move if we go that direction'

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I think YOU need to initiate things now. And move on if it doesn't work out. Come on, man, she's got you around her finger and that's not good for you. Especially after the stripper incident. If she's not ready for you at this point my guess is that she never will be and you will be better off finding out as soon as possible.