Unrequited love - what to do? - Page 12

elus2 · #**111** 01-10-2007, 01:06 PM

The question was why she even hung out with you in the first place. After you told her you might be homosexual, she started hanging out with you probably because gay stalkers aren't to be feared and all girls need at least one gay friend. You should have kept working that angle in though, eventually she might have tried to help you switch teams.

nature\\\'s_hated · #**112** 01-10-2007, 01:09 PM

She hung out with me because we get on fabulously well, have the same sense of humour - so rare to meet a girl who's genuinely funny! - and had fun together. Damn, I do make myself sound gay, huh. Well, I'm not and wasn't - I just would have done anything to keep in touch with her, and wondered if I might be gay since I had no luck with women and quite a few people thought I might be. Should have trusted my dick more.

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The question was why she even hung out with you in the first place. After you told her you might be homosexual, she started hanging out with you probably because gay stalkers aren't to be feared and all girls need at least one gay friend. You should have kept working that angle in though, eventually she might have tried to help you switch teams.

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elus2 · #**113** 01-10-2007, 01:16 PM

Btw, maxpower's posts in this thread are spot on. Please reread them until they've become your gospel. You should try to apply for a student loan and redo your phd and hopefully being in such close proximity to new college girls will help you grow some stones and stop stalking that poor doctor.

Matt Flynn · #**114** 01-10-2007, 01:20 PM

Road trip, clearly.

nature\\\'s_hated · #**115** 01-10-2007, 01:28 PM

Yeah, I'd love to pick up my PhD. I may well have the chance of a part-time job that would pay enough for me to do it. There are so many opportunities to meet girls at college, even as a graduate, and it's great for my self-image to be researching and teaching literature.

Meeting new girls is the best remedy for getting over old ones.

I also think I haven't made enough of the difference in our lifestyles - though doctors don't work as many hours as they used to, she is still BUSY most of the time and has to be selective about her social life. By contrast, most of my friends are the idle rich, artists or writers who don't have to work and so can go out each and every evening if they want to. I'd wanted to invite her into that world, but of course she can't, she has responsibilities. And with the years of study she's put in, and the situations she's had to deal with on the accident and emergency ward, "bohemians" like that probably make her throw up a little in her mouth, anyway.

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Btw, maxpower's posts in this thread are spot on. Please reread them until they've become your gospel. You should try to apply for a student loan and redo your phd and hopefully being in such close proximity to new college girls will help you grow some stones and stop stalking that poor doctor.

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Wilco666 · #**116** 01-10-2007, 01:35 PM

I'm afraid finding other girls who want to do you will be difficult to find.

You talk too much, and your stories are very boring.

WilyTilt · #**117** 01-10-2007, 01:45 PM

You really should read that link posted earlier about the ladder theory. Telling her that you're gay is the ultimate suicide from ever getting away from the friend ladder. I can't think of a way a guy can parlay the "I'm gay, let's be friends" into "hey, uh, you switched me from being gay to being straight, let's screw (but you can peg me in the ass also)", unless the girl was very attracted to him in the first place.

As far as you lusting for prostitutes but worshiping your lady, Freud describes this very phenomenon as the "The Most Prevalent Form of Degradation in Erotic Life". He says that upper class men have love and respect their bourgeois ladies, but fantasize about sex with the dirty, low-class whores. I bet it's the same with you - you probably don't even think about this woman when you jerk off. It's validation you seek, not actual sex. Right?

dinopoker · #**118** 01-10-2007, 02:10 PM

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Your putting the pussy on a pedastal. You gotta stop doing that.

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This is the truth. Girls don't want to date a wimp, no matter what your mother told you, they want to date brash, boorish, tough guys who make them work to get attention. You have basically been a pussy throughout this relationship and you're totally fooling yourself that this chick can have any interest in you whatsoever. You need to come to reality - you screwed it up, it's over, move on. Learn from the mistakes and next time you meet a decent chick remember bob_halford's advice from earlier; try and close the deal early so you know where you stand.

Now, at the moment, you're still in love, so you think that's going to be impossible. You can't imagine caring about anyone like you care for her. I can understand that. I promise you, though, if you get out there and start looking you'll find someone and forget about her in no time flat.

Look how quickly Romeo forgot about Roslyn when he met Juliet. Guy was all head-over-heels at the beginning of the play and at the end he couldn't even remember the broad's name.

WilyTilt · #**119** 01-10-2007, 02:19 PM

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Look how quickly Romeo forgot about Roslyn when he met Juliet. Guy was all head-over-heels at the beginning of the play and at the end he couldn't even remember the broad's name.

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Yea, and things turned out great for everyone in the end of that play.

dinopoker · #**120** 01-10-2007, 02:23 PM

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Look how quickly Romeo forgot about Roslyn when he met Juliet. Guy was all head-over-heels at the beginning of the play and at the end he couldn't even remember the broad's name.

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Yea, and things turned out great for everyone in the end of that play.

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But at least he learned something.