Unrequited love - what to do?

[Wilco666]

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So, do I never call / email / text / write her, and know she's unlikely to contact me and lose touch that way.


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This is it. And quit whining, and grow some balls.

[DrewDevil]

Be indifferent and unavailable to her.

Don't be mad or upset, just be nothing.

Don't come running when she calls, be busy banging other chicks.

She'll either want to pursue what she can't have, or she won't, and in either case, you'll be banging other chicks and forgetting about her.

[MaxPower]

Please get some help.

She is isn't the problem.

Realize that you don't love her. You are obsessed with her. You have lust. You have the crazy notion that gaining her love would heal you and in some way make you happy. Its not going to happen. You only want her so much because you can't have her. She won't be attracted to you because she can have you so easily.

Telling her how you feel isn't going to help anything. You can't guilt her into loving you. You can't reason with her. If you tell her, you will be even more creepy to her and she will lose whatever little respect or affection she has for you

What you should do is cut her out of your life. Don't call her. Don't answer her phone calls. Also, don't do the same thing with new girls that you meet. There are millions of girls. Stop it already.

You are like those guys who won't raise pocket aces before the flop because they always lose with them.

[tuq]

Didn't read the thread, but new poster + chick dilemma = very high chance that this is KKF.

[evil twin]

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Didn't read the thread, but new poster + chick dilemma = very high chance that this is KKF.

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So true.

[nature\\\'s_hated]

You're right, but it isn't lust. Lust is what I feel for strippers and pornochicks. This girl does something else entirely. I'm attracted to her physically because I love her, not vice versa. When we're together I am at my best. "She makes me want to be a better man". She makes me like myself; she makes me happy. She makes me feel validated.

Except that ultimately she doesn't want me, and so she totally destroys me.

There's an empty core at the heart of me which I've tried to fill with gambling, booze (when I was younger) and porno. This girl fills that void; she makes me feel complete.

But she doesn't want to be my salvation. No girl does.

I should get a puppy or go to church, I guess.


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Please get some help.

She is isn't the problem.

Realize that you don't love her. You are obsessed with her. You have lust. You have the crazy notion that gaining her love would heal you and in some way make you happy. Its not going to happen. You only want her so much because you can't have her. She won't be attracted to you because she can have you so easily.

Telling her how you feel isn't going to help anything. You can't guilt her into loving you. You can't reason with her. If you tell her, you will be even more creepy to her and she will lose whatever little respect or affection she has for you

What you should do is cut her out of your life. Don't call her. Don't answer her phone calls. Also, don't do the same thing with new girls that you meet. There are millions of girls. Stop it already.

You are like those guys who won't raise pocket aces before the flop because they always lose with them.

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[nature\\\'s_hated]

What's KKF?



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Didn't read the thread, but new poster + chick dilemma = very high chance that this is KKF.

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So true.

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[The X-Factor]

OP,

Just let it go man. After nine years of hangin with this girl and you didnt even get drunk sex or drunken kisses then it'll never happen. You have to realize that life isnt a movie like the notebook where you guys will hook up in the end so its beeter to go out and find some chcik to blow you off and get your mind off of this one. Good luck.

X

[elus2]

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the mystery isn't why she doesn't love you, the mystery is why she even hung out with you in the first place.

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A few months later I sent her an email saying I was gay

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mystery solved.

[nature\\\'s_hated]

Yeah but she's no idiot. What kind of gay guy doesn't know any other gay men, never goes to gay clubs, never talks about guys, amd never has buttsex?



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the mystery isn't why she doesn't love you, the mystery is why she even hung out with you in the first place.

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A few months later I sent her an email saying I was gay

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mystery solved.

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