When you have a daughter....

[diebitter]

I have a daughter. I think once she's old enough to date, I'll have calmed the hell down about it, but it's 'cleean the shiny chrome shotgun' for me at the moment.

Oh, and make sure her two big brothers are around and snarling too.

Oh, and as they leave, have a quiet word.
"If you touch her, I'll cut you." should suffice.

[4_2_it]

I have two daughters (8 & 12) so I have been giving this a lot of thought of late. First, my plan is stay involved in their lives so I know a little bit about Romeo before they have a date with him. Second, I remember all the tricks I used and I plan to have my daughters thoroughly educated before the dating rituals start.

The best way to put the fear of God into a 16 year old boy is to firmly shake his hand and look him directly in the eye as you tell him how much you love your daughter and that you expect him to abide by curfew and treat her nice. When done properly, (in view of the gun case full of semi-automatic weapons is optional, but more effective) this will keep Romeo in line for a date or two. The rest is up my daughter. I have to trust her sometime.

[diebitter]

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I have two daughters (8 & 12) so I have been giving this a lot of thought of late. First, my plan is stay involved in their lives so I know a little bit about Romeo before they have a date with him. Second, I remember all the tricks I used and I plan to have my daughters thoroughly educated before the dating rituals start.

The best way to put the fear of God into a 16 year old boy is to firmly shake his hand and look him directly in the eye as you tell him how much you love your daughter and that you expect him to abide by curfew and treat her nice. When done properly, (in view of the gun case full of semi-automatic weapons is optional, but more effective) this will keep Romeo in line for a date or two. The rest is up my daughter. I have to trust her sometime.

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very well said.

[Schwartzy61]

No experience with this but a funny way as described by Bill Engvall was something to the effect...

If you don't respect my daughter, treat her like a lady, and have her back by curfew, I have no problem going BACK to prison...

[daveymck]

I plan on bricking up all of the doors and windows in 6 years time and taking out the internet.

My stepson has just started asking me dating advice which is pretty cool, it all seems to be done via MSN and webcam these days, but I dont know how I would feel/react when my daughter gets to that age.

[4_2_it]

Another thought. When I get my daughter a cell phone (probably for her 13th B-day) it will not have a text message feature. 13-17 year olds do not "need" to text each other. They can use the phone or exchange email if they "need" to communicate.

Young teen girls AIMing each other only creates more problems than it's worth. I'd rather be the hard ass, than deal with the consequences of this stuff gone awry.

Question: What is so important in the live of a 13 year-old that she has to AIM her friends ASAP?

Answer: Nothing.

Also, I don't let me kids participate in chat rooms because a young teenager is not ready to handle the 'real' world environment many of these innocent chat rooms offer.

Again, I know I can't stop my kids from dating boys and everything that goes with it, but I can put them in a position where they will be able to make good decisions. I just communicate with my kids and stay as involved as I can. Hopefully, the 13 years of parenting has had some positive impact on them.

[daveymck]

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It definatley seems the way of it these days as I said my stepson is 13 and he has somthing like 150 contacts on his msn and is on there chatting to his mates, schoolfriends and some people he has met via friends in all his free time. They seem to message rather than ring each other so make arrangements etc on there. It does eem to have replaced the phone as the main teen communication medium.

He comes in from school goes on and all you see is all the kids popping up as they rush home and get online.

I have given him warnings about the potential for dodgy people and not being who they say they are etc, and at the moment we do monitor his logs (for our own piece of mind) but I will prob drop that shortly as there aint much going on there.

Most converastions revolve about being bored and talking crap for hours on end in bizarre text speak.

I am pretty open about the internet and email my daughter at 6 has a hotmail account so she can messenger me while I work away and also email her friend who has moved to Dubai (ovbiously I am the only one in her contact list). There are risks of course in letting her have open internet access but I balance that with what I think is the need to become computer literate and aware of stranger danger in all its forms. I was very proud the other week when I got my first email off my daughter she had worked out how to do it herself without being taught by me.

I can see what you are saying but AIM does seem to be a replacement for spending hours on the phone for teens these days.

[spamuell]

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Another thought. When I get my daughter a cell phone (probably for her 13th B-day) it will not have a text message feature. 13-17 year olds do not "need" to text each other. They can use the phone or exchange email if they "need" to communicate.

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Why not just tape up her mouth? 13-17 year old girls do not "need" to talk to each other, if it's imperative that she communicates then she can write a message on a piece of paper.

Look, of course it's not absolutely necessary for your teenage daughter to use text messaging/IM, but you would be cutting her off from an enormous amount of socialising with her peers if you prevented her from using them, it's far too over-protective.

[Jay.]

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Another thought. When I get my daughter a cell phone (probably for her 13th B-day) it will not have a text message feature. 13-17 year olds do not "need" to text each other. They can use the phone or exchange email if they "need" to communicate.

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Just a life of what she neeeds then? bread and water lifestyle sounds awesome.

[Action Scott]

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Another thought. When I get my daughter a cell phone (probably for her 13th B-day) it will not have a text message feature. 13-17 year olds do not "need" to text each other. They can use the phone or exchange email if they "need" to communicate.

Young teen girls AIMing each other only creates more problems than it's worth. I'd rather be the hard ass, than deal with the consequences of this stuff gone awry.

Question: What is so important in the live of a 13 year-old that she has to AIM her friends ASAP?

Answer: Nothing.

Also, I don't let me kids participate in chat rooms because a young teenager is not ready to handle the 'real' world environment many of these innocent chat rooms offer.

Again, I know I can't stop my kids from dating boys and everything that goes with it, but I can put them in a position where they will be able to make good decisions. I just communicate with my kids and stay as involved as I can. Hopefully, the 13 years of parenting has had some positive impact on them.

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No offense, but why in the hell does your 13yr old daughter need a cell phone at all? She's not even driving for 3 more years to justify having one in case her car breaks down. I have 3yr and 3 month old daughters, there's no way they're getting any kind of cell phone when they're 13. I can't think of one good reason a 13yr old should have one.