Marriage: One unfaithfulness exception, or none?

[elus2]

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Realize that most posters in this thread are employing the 'traditional mode of thinking' and thus are at an inherently different level of thought from you

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I have a feeling that I'm getting horribly leveled here. Seriously.

[Aloysius]

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Realize that most posters in this thread are employing the 'traditional mode of thinking' and thus are at an inherently different level of thought from you

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I have a feeling that I'm getting horribly leveled here. Seriously.

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Replace "traditional" with "American" and maybe he's closer... I read a book review in The Economist about the history of infidelity, and the current climate globally of acceptance etc. In broadstrokes, it seems that the U.S. are the most uptight and suffer the most emotional devastation. Other 1st world Western countries (e.g. France) tend to look at affairs more practically wrt keeping the marriage going. I'm a traditional American, so whatever, and my take on it is similar to 7ontheline's... but it's interesting anyway. Below is something I posted in some other EDF thread:

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Thread reminded me of a book review of "Lust in Translation: The Rules of Infidelity from Tokyo to Tennessee" (examination of infidelity around the globe, exploring differences in attitudes towards adultery, and frequency) I read a couple months ago: here is a reprint of the article.

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Her conclusion: people in rich countries value monogamy and tend not to stray often. In America, however, “adultery crises last longer, cost more, and seem to inflict more emotional torture.” Americans are so guilt-ridden, she writes, that they don't even enjoy what should be the pleasurable bit. Better, she reckons, to take a lesson from the French, who believe that monogamy is optimal, enjoy the lapses when they happen but try not to escalate them, and never, ever, confront a spouse for cheating.

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-Al

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