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Why do you guys ask the question if you're not willing to accept an answer? It seems more to me like people seeking excuses to "accept" a lifestyle that intrigues them, while still maintaining a puritanical image of chastity. Seriously, we've come many hundreds (thousands) of years since some uppity jerks decided that sex was a vile and dirty act, and those who participated in it were somehow of lesser moral fiber than those who so wisely ignored their more base instincts...

The jealosy is what is ingrained into us, not the promiscuity. All of us are born promiscuous, we are later conditioned through peer acceptance that it's ok to shun people for this particular "character flaw." The word "[censored]" is an acceptable insult for those women you classify as having a less stringent moral code. In fact, it's all an illusion.

We should all be pretty aware of the fact that no matter what a person's sexual choices are, it doesn't have any bearing at all on their personal moral fiber. At least we should be aware of it by now, but amazingly, we aren't.

Anyway, my wife and I are swingers and love the lifestyle. We know well enough that the two of us love one another completely, but we also like to have fun with others. We are both mature enough to understand that these others are just for sex and our extra-marital partners know that as well. We hang out with these people much like many of you might do for a dinner date and sometimes other things happen, sometimes they don't, but we know that if things go that direction, we don't have limits. However, all of the couples we meet up with are screened pretty rigorously. Any couple who seems emotionally unstable, who might get emotionally attached, dramatic, or whatever is out. We both have to agree to play, and we only play together to avoid any bruised emotions.

I wonder why it is that the opinions of some were offered here saying they would never be with a woman who would allow them such freedom. Were those opinions solicited? Were they important to anything besides proving your own moral fiber? The solicitation was for people to discuss their own experiences with this sort of practice, not to bash someone for offering her own experience.




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