Best friend slept with girl of my dreams, what SHOULD I do?

[Genz]

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I actually prefer hiding in the closet and masterbating to this advice. You're not going to get any real pleasure out of this, plus it would be a lot of work, plus if they rejected you...oh man.

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How is he going to get rejected if he tells the girl that his Ex has strictly forbidden that they have any contact and that it might get a little dangerous? Should be a no-brainer.


Seriously, though:
Well, that advice is certainly not perfect, but wallowing in self-pity is certainly worse and fantasizing about his dream girl having buttsecks with other dudes will make for a good psychosis and mental trauma, depending on how much he was into this girl and how much of a beat this whole thing was for him. Certainly not the way to go. I think anything that drives him away from that girl is good even if it is the pure lust for revenge.

I can't believe I write all this without having seen ANY DAMN PIC!

[Burdzthewurd]

ElD,

Did you ask Ashman or Daryn about my appearance? Daryn hasn't seen me in a few years so I've packed on a little muscle, but I'm no twig. The other things are about right, though making the actual move was pretty much the only thing I didn't do. When she would get in close, she'd then lean back and slide across the couch. Just fillin' in details. Also, he's sexed three girls in his lifetime, and majority of friends are through drugs, but that probably goes for a good amount of people so lame for me to hate on that.

Also, before this she always considered the friend "as a brother" to her.

Triumph,

I've hooked him up with a few of his ex-girlfriends, including one of my fairly good friends. She always laughed about how he had a hard time getting it up, especially when drunk (and yes, at least he's getting some, joke's on me).

KyleB,

Right on.

All,

Guess I'm a pussy, but I had no desire to bang her. I sincerely liked her, that's what made it far harder for me to make a move unfortunately, even if that excuse sucks; if I just thought she was hot I wouldn't care about rejection as much and would just go for it. Making out was my goal, I don't set the bar very high for myself obv. Foolish of me to want a relationship, them the breaks. If that's stuck in HS, then so be it.

Taso,

Do I know you from somewhere?

[luckyjimm]

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Guess I'm a pussy, but I had no desire to bang her. I sincerely liked her, that's what made it far harder for me to make a move unfortunately, even if that excuse sucks; if I just thought she was hot I wouldn't care about rejection as much and would just go for it. Making out was my goal, I don't set the bar very high for myself obv. Foolish of me to want a relationship, them the breaks. If that's stuck in HS, then so be it.


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Wait - so you didn't actually want to screw her yourself that night? Well you can't blame her if she really wants to get laid, gives you the opportunity but you pass it up, so goes to your friend who knows what to do. Maybe she thinks YOU rejected her, even.

[Los Feliz Slim]

Burdz,

There was a time in my life that this would've tilted me for at least a year, maybe more. I totally understand where you're coming from, but can tell you from experience that this is a terrible place to be that you need to move past. I recommend lots of booze. People suck, whatever, next.

[DrewDevil]

Burdz, I was 100% on your side and thought your friend was a worthless douchebag until I read this:

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Guess I'm a pussy, but I had no desire to bang her. I sincerely liked her, that's what made it far harder for me to make a move unfortunately, even if that excuse sucks; if I just thought she was hot I wouldn't care about rejection as much and would just go for it. Making out was my goal, I don't set the bar very high for myself obv. Foolish of me to want a relationship, them the breaks. If that's stuck in HS, then so be it.

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There are so many things that don't make sense here.

You didn't want to bang her because you liked her and wanted a relationship? WTF that makes no sense. Do you only have sex with girls you DON'T like?

What is your idea of a "relationship," anyway, just holding hands and making out? What is this, 8th grade? I got news for you, pal, college girls want to get [censored] in a relationship. And BTW having sex with someone is pretty much the defining feature of a relationship anyway.

If you don't make a move on the girls you really like and don't want to have sex with the girls you want to have a relationship with, then you have it EXACTLY BACKWARDS. D U C Y?

It's quite possible that the girl got horny but realized you were not going to make a move on her, and decided YOU weren't into HER, so she went looking for some alternate dick. Or maybe she just liked your friend better from the start. It doesn't matter. Point is, if you don't at least act like you want to have sex with girls, you're going to have a really tough time having sex. Or a relationship. Or keeping your friends from tapping the ass you don't want to.

I still think your friend is kind of a jerk for not talking to you about the situation, or confirming that you had no chance with this particular girl, but it is hard to blame him--or her--for their actions if you weren't even trying to have sex with her despite the best of all possible sexing situations.

Anyway, talk to your friend and clear the air, or write him off. Get a new friend and/or a different girl to have sex with. Maybe pick a girl you hate or something.

[pergesu]

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What is your idea of a "relationship," anyway, just holding hands and making out? What is this, 8th grade? I got news for you, pal, college girls want to get [censored] in a relationship. And BTW having sex with someone is pretty much the defining feature of a relationship anyway.

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An ex of mine once told me that the only difference between a boyfriend and a boy friend is that the boyfriend gets play. She wasn't the best of girlfriends but boy was she great in bed.

[bkholdem]

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ElD,

Did you ask Ashman or Daryn about my appearance? Daryn hasn't seen me in a few years so I've packed on a little muscle, but I'm no twig. The other things are about right, though making the actual move was pretty much the only thing I didn't do. When she would get in close, she'd then lean back and slide across the couch. Just fillin' in details. Also, he's sexed three girls in his lifetime, and majority of friends are through drugs, but that probably goes for a good amount of people so lame for me to hate on that.

Also, before this she always considered the friend "as a brother" to her.

Triumph,

I've hooked him up with a few of his ex-girlfriends, including one of my fairly good friends. She always laughed about how he had a hard time getting it up, especially when drunk (and yes, at least he's getting some, joke's on me).

KyleB,

Right on.

All,

Guess I'm a pussy, but I had no desire to bang her. I sincerely liked her, that's what made it far harder for me to make a move unfortunately, even if that excuse sucks; if I just thought she was hot I wouldn't care about rejection as much and would just go for it. Making out was my goal, I don't set the bar very high for myself obv. Foolish of me to want a relationship, them the breaks. If that's stuck in HS, then so be it.

Taso,

Do I know you from somewhere?

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Dude,
He really did you a favor if this is gonna smarten you up some. She wanted to get bent over and you had your tail between your legs. It's imperative to be able to read chicks and give them what they want. Playing the nice guy is super lame and chicks will treat you like their girlfriend crying on your shoulder about their relationship problems and then go suck some strange dude off that they meet after they are finnished using you for their emotional tampon for the night.

You woulda been way better off grabbing her ass and telling her "I want you" earlier in the night. If she says no you know where you stand. Then you couldn't so easily justify being angry at your friend.

I realize I"m being harsh but u need to toughen up when dealing with bitches.