Girls refusing to move in with a guy without a ring

[daryn]

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My girlfriend is demanding a ring; we live together. The relationship is strained because of this. I work a lot (60-80 hours a week in the office), it's the #1 priority right now, not sure I want to commit to being married, etc.

Being able to resolve this problem while not living together would be a lot easier than if we hadn't already moved in together. She doesn't like living with me while we're not engaged, apparently.

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kyleb, no offense, but everything you've written about your GF makes me think you need a different GF. She must be an incredible [censored] for you to stay with her.

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I was kinda thinking the same, but upon reading this I have decided that she must actually be kinda awesome, and kyle just never talks about the good stuff.

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more likely is that he's just stuck in a rut of routine and sees no real reason to actively make a move to change things

[kyleb]

daryn is obviously correct

[Alobar]

I don't see anything wrong with it. I've told my GF that I'm not living with her(or any girl I date) until we are married. I dont see whats wrong with having a similar rule except that it's engagement instead of marriage.

[daryn]

i have experience in that kind of thing. it's even more likely that you realizes how bad things are, but still do nothing about it. eventually you will either snap and end things, or surrender and get married.

[Aloysius]

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You don't wait for the right one. You pick the one and make it right.

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QFMFT

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I think this is an important point in general, and usually the older you are (i.e. likely have been in, or are in, a committed, serious relationship) the more it rings true.

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WTF do people feel the need to constantly talk out of their ass about [censored] they do not know anything about.

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Erm... first time in OOT jaydub?

-Al

[Mr. Zero]

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She, on the other hand, has said there is no rush to get engaged, but that she won't move in under any circumstances if they are not engaged.

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If she WAS in a rush to get engaged, I'd be concerned that she's trying to leverage a ring sooner than what he's ready for. As it stands, I don't see any problem with it.

[KUJustin]

For those saying you should live with someone first to see if you CAN live with them, the divorce rate is MUCH higher among couples that lived together before marriage than among those that didn't.

OTOH, correlation != causation and there are certainly other factors skewing that statistic. Still I think that the idea that living together first is better is questionable.

[Peter Harris]

1/2 - 2 years in, jenny spent all her time in my apartment.
2 - 3 years in, we lived together
3 1/2 years in, we engaged
4 years in, we marry.

Seemed sensible to us.

[NajdorfDefense]

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Good for her. Moving in too early can really slow things down and can result in one of those horrible relationships were the couple is together forever, but never gets married. Inertia is a bitch.

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[Hollywade]

Why would you EVER want a girl living with you if she wasn't your wife?

F that.

Independence, bro.