Pregnant GF

[VoraciousReader]

Blarg,

To be clear, I have a lot of empathy for OP too. I don't think that this is something he "did to her" either. (Note my postscript to him earlier.)

I specifically referenced the girl in this case because the recent posts in the thread seem to be of the "look what she's doing to him" variety.

In an ideal world, OP's girlfriend would graduate, they would marry, and when they are both ready, they'll decide to have babies. It's an unfortunate situation for everyone concerned. I don't think the answer is: "He doesn't owe her anything because she won't have an abortion."

And I disagree that there is cultural approval for the girl's situation. Whatever she chooses, a lot of people are going to look down on her. If she aborts, for some (including people she is fairly close to), she will be a killer. If she has the baby, for some, she will be a statistic: "another unwed young mother". And either way, some people that are apparently key members of her support system (OP or her family) are going to be very angry with her.

It is unfortunate, but there can still be lots of joy for both of them in the future if they are open to it. Still, the way to get there is to assess their lives given what has happened to them, not given what they WISH had happened.