Pregnant GF

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Man this mod forum post in question has tons of nude chicks!

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Do you know where Mat found those Scarlett J pictures? OMFG.....

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It's really annoying when mods hijack a thread like this. No one cares about the secret mod forum.

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they're just taking out their anger in humor - they have to read nation's [censored] all the time there

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It's a little from Column A, little from Column B.

Plus, Homer, you're lying about not caring wrt the mod forum.

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Plus homer hijacks oot threads and turns them into [censored] bicker fests all the time.

For op,

That situation sucks, no idea what you should do.

[Homer]

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Man this mod forum post in question has tons of nude chicks!

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Do you know where Mat found those Scarlett J pictures? OMFG.....

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It's really annoying when mods hijack a thread like this. No one cares about the secret mod forum.

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they're just taking out their anger in humor - they have to read nation's [censored] all the time there

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It's a little from Column A, little from Column B.

Plus, Homer, you're lying about not caring wrt the mod forum.

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Plus homer hijacks oot threads and turns them into [censored] bicker fests all the time.

For op,

That situation sucks, no idea what you should do.

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I thought you had me blocked.

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Man this mod forum post in question has tons of nude chicks!

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Do you know where Mat found those Scarlett J pictures? OMFG.....

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It's really annoying when mods hijack a thread like this. No one cares about the secret mod forum.

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they're just taking out their anger in humor - they have to read nation's [censored] all the time there

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It's a little from Column A, little from Column B.

Plus, Homer, you're lying about not caring wrt the mod forum.

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Plus homer hijacks oot threads and turns them into [censored] bicker fests all the time.

For op,

That situation sucks, no idea what you should do.

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I thought you had me blocked.

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I do. I only read your posts in kyleb's quote.

[kyleb]

Now I know you're lying.

[Tito]

I have a tendency to be brutally honest to everyone. Now it's your turn.

First off, it's YOUR baby whether you like it or not. You [censored] her, you got her pregnant, you suffer the consequences. Secondly, your views are pretty screwed up as far as the fetus not being a baby, but an "opportunity". The fetus IS a baby, just not a fully developed one. However, it is still a living organism.

You really should rethink your situation and make a decision that would be best for both of you involving the child. It is ultimately up to your GF whether you keep the baby or not. Adoption isn't a bad choice if you are both not ready to be parents. It's probably actually your best choice. But to say that the rest of your life is ruined is a pathetic excuse and IMO you're a self-centered, piece of [censored] for thinking this way.

I've never been through the same situation as you, but I think I can relate to how you're feeling. I am not married but will be very soon. My GF was married before and has a little girl. I am white, my GF is Filipino, and her child is half black. I grew up in a hick town and my parents have the same take on interracial relationships as probably most of this forum's parents do. I don't feel the same way they do, but it is a little tough knowing what they are thinking about the decisions that I am making. I'm getting way off topic here. My point is that I love my GF and plan on marrying her someday. I knew that she had a child when we started dating, and I found out later that the child came from two ethnic backgrounds that were very different from my own. I had plans and dreams for my own life and felt a little cheated out of those dreams because I love my GF but she screwed up her life and sometimes I feel like I'm paying the consequences by staying with her. But I love her. And if my life is what I have to sacrifice to make her happy and give her and her child the life that they deserve, then that's what I'll do. That doesn't mean that I don't wish things were different, it just means that I'm not going to puss out and run just because certain aspects of my life do not match the way I had planned it. If everyone, everyday, could just take the time to think of a way that they could make someone else happy and stop being so selfish, the world would be a MUCH better place.

If you decide to have this baby and continue to support your GF in whatever she chooses, even if that means your life takes a drastic turn, then I commend you and hold a DEEP amount of respect for you. You are truly a man.
But if you don't, and you cut and run, you are worthless and you're a pussy and I hope your balls fall off. And I guarantee you the day will come when you wish you had made the right decision. You are blessed to have the ability to bring a new life into this world, and one that carries your name. Embrace it, care for it, and show it all the love you have in you. You won't regret it. Best to you and your GF.

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Yeah, I was pretty sure that this wasn't directed @ me.

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If you decide to have this baby and continue to support your GF in whatever she chooses, even if that means your life takes a drastic turn, then I commend you and hold a DEEP amount of respect for you. You are truly a man.
But if you don't, and you cut and run, you are worthless and you're a pussy and I hope your balls fall off. And I guarantee you the day will come when you wish you had made the right decision. You are blessed to have the ability to bring a new life into this world, and one that carries your name. Embrace it, care for it, and show it all the love you have in you. You won't regret it. Best to you and your GF.

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What about leaving the gf but supporting the child.

[pauliewalnuts]

Step 1

Seriously though, I have a little experience with this, so I'll share my thoughts.

I'm young like you(just turned 24) and never planned on having kids until I was married and probably in my late twenties. I always figured that if by chance I got one of my gfs pregnant, that I'd want to have an abortion. Well, last June my current gf told me that she was pregnant. It was a bit shocking, but we werent extremely careful, so it wasnt a complete surprise. Turns out I never really felt that i didnt want to have the baby. Sure, I realized that the timing wasnt perfect. I was still in college, we werent married(and didnt have any plans to get married), and there were still things I wanted to do before settling down. But shw wanted to have the kid and the more I thought about it, having a kid would probably be great. I mean everybody tells you that having children is the best thing that couldve ever happened to them. They cant all be lying, right?

I graduated about a month before he was born, but before I was able to find real job, he came two months early. Luckily my gf has a good job with good insurance. I remember during the pregnancy that I never really had a sense of fatherhood. It didnt really seem real, since he wasnt actually around yet. The day he was born my gf had gone to the doctor with her mother because she hadnt felt him move in awhile. That morning I got a call from her mother saying that something was wrong and they were taking her over to the hospital. It suddenly began to feel very real and I remember thinking how much I really did want this baby as I was on my way to the hospital.

Being born two months early meant there were plenty of complications. He was on a ventilator for over a week and had to stay in the NICU for 2 months. He is 3 months old now and weighs 7lbs. The last month that he has been home with us has been great. I wouldnt change a thing. Some of the things I used to look forward to are now replaced by looking forward to playing pass with him in the backyard and teaching him to ride a bike.

So before you make a decision, try and put things in perspective. A baby will change your life, but after the fact I think you'd agree it was a change for the best.

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If you decide to have this baby and continue to support your GF in whatever she chooses, even if that means your life takes a drastic turn, then I commend you and hold a DEEP amount of respect for you. You are truly a man.
But if you don't, and you cut and run, you are worthless and you're a pussy and I hope your balls fall off. And I guarantee you the day will come when you wish you had made the right decision. You are blessed to have the ability to bring a new life into this world, and one that carries your name. Embrace it, care for it, and show it all the love you have in you. You won't regret it. Best to you and your GF.

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What about leaving the gf but supporting the child.

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If you want to leave the gf and support the child then I don't see a problem. But I'm not sure why you would want to leave her other than you're pissed off she may keep the baby, which I don't think is nearly enough to justify leaving her. In her defense, it's so easy to say something, but infinitely harder to do it when the situation presents itself. Put her and the baby's needs first and you'll be rewarded in more ways than you can imagine. I have a feeling life won't be as bad as you think it will.

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havent bothered with the replys yet but ill just go with what me and my ex both agreed on should she ever get pregnant (she was still practicing catholic). Have the child, give it up for adoption. It's hard on the girl emotionally and physically, but still not as much mentally as an abortion. Also i think no matter how you feel about abortions its better to not have one then have one if you can