OT: Goggles needs life help, part deuce.

[IWEARGOGGLES]

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If you are going to establish residency, consider a state with no state taxes.

Cali is very cool.

There are at least a few places that have more than just a couple people you know and like (Toronto, Texas, Cali....?). You should visit each and then decide.

Whether you want to stay with your family vs. just visiting when you can is too personal for anyone else to answer.

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Thanks for reminding me about no state taxes. I'm fairly sure Florida also doesn't have state taxes.

Yeah, I guess I just need to visit some people and hang out.

*books flight to Texas*

[bigt439]

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I also wish she would have big ones, but I doubt that will happen.



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That made me laugh.

If I were you, I'd try and think about this by pretending I HAD to move. Pretend you don't have any friends or family in Pittsburgh and that the mayor just told you to [censored] off or you'd go to jail. Think of where you would move if you had to. Also think about who you would want to live with, if they'd want to live with you, and if your ideal location would be feasible for the two, three, whatever of you. When I say think about this, I mean really think about it. Pretend you are actually moving and research accordingly.

THEN, once you've come up with this scenario compare it against your current situation taking into account the things that are obviously very important to you, namely, your family. Consider both situations from every perspective and make the tough decision that only you can make of which one is better for you. Realize that how your family will react to your decision will be fully accounted for when asking yourself how YOU feel, because you obviously are taking their feelings into account.

That's how I would approach it anyways.

[Haiku]

I'm sort of in the same situation as you, although I doubt I make as much money as you. I can really sympathize with really reducing your earn because you don't play enough. I started playing poker in March (literally didn't even know what hands beat what prior to that) and was really learning fast and was playing a ton. Eventually I had an absolutely horrific month in October where I ran exceptionally poorly and tilted as well and since then even though I've been doing better if I have a good session I tend to cut it short since I'm afraid I'll lose my profit for the day. Obviously if I'm playing well this is tremendously -EV.

I suppose I just need to man up and tell start playing more, although I'd love to get up the balls to do something like move to Brasil for a while. Hey, I even speak some Portuguese.

[IWEARGOGGLES]

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I also wish she would have big ones, but I doubt that will happen.



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That made me laugh.

If I were you, I'd try and think about this by pretending I HAD to move. Pretend you don't have any friends or family in Pittsburgh and that the mayor just told you to [censored] off or you'd go to jail. Think of where you would move if you had to. Also think about who you would want to live with, if they'd want to live with you, and if your ideal location would be feasible for the two, three, whatever of you. When I say think about this, I mean really think about it. Pretend you are actually moving and research accordingly.

THEN, once you've come up with this scenario compare it against your current situation taking into account the things that are obviously very important to you, namely, your family. Consider both situations from every perspective and make the tough decision that only you can make of which one is better for you. Realize that how your family will react to your decision will be fully accounted for when asking yourself how YOU feel, because you obviously are taking their feelings into account.

That's how I would approach it anyways.

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BigT,

I would attempt to live anywhere. I've done everything in Pittsburgh and I THINK I'm ready to leave. I don't have like a BFF I'm leaving or anything. Sure, I'd miss my friends, but if I'm having fun traveling, making money, all that stuff, I think I could put it in the background.

Anyways, I'm headed to Texas for a few days to try and figure stuff out. Wish the Goggles luck.

[suzzer99]

Start looking for good opportunities to move somewhere--someone you know needs a roommate, someone you are good friends with LOVES it where they are etc. But don't force it if nothing jumps out at you. Since it sounds like you are still on the fence, maybe let another Pittsburgh winter sweeten the pot. That way when you do move, you won't be sitting somewhere lonely, uprooted, wondering if you made the right call.

Moving can be tough. After that initial honeymoon with your new place, the first year or so can be kind of hard to take. Or it can go really well if you make good friends or have some already there. When I finally left KC for good, I was 100% sure I didn't want to go back to live. If I had been 50/50 I might not have made it.

Also it sounds like you are more family oriented than most your age. Have you considered just staying put and travelling to some live MTTs/vacations etc.? This would burn off some of that BR and might motivate you to play more.

And finally, no matter where you move, you're still going to have to tackle this lack of desire to play issue head on. It's not going to stay behind in PA. Trust me from experience, issues never stay behind.

[IWEARGOGGLES]

The lack of desire issue is only an issue because I don't hang out with poker players. It is a proven fact I can grind while around other players.

[BradleyT]

You talk about being social but you think Vegas is meh? Vegas is one of the most common cities I see players from at Stars since you're looking to hang around poker players.

There have been OOT threads where someone wants to move to Vegas with a roomate and they have gotten offers.

[The Yugoslavian]

goggles,

Glad you read my winning answer in this thread. Just remember that when durrr and raptor invite you for "afterhour" sessions at their house, they aren't talking about poker, [img]/images/graemlins/blush.gif[/img].

holla

Yugoslav

[IWEARGOGGLES]

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goggles,

Glad you read my winning answer in this thread. Just remember that when durrr and raptor invite you for "afterhour" sessions at their house, they aren't talking about poker, [img]/images/graemlins/blush.gif[/img].

holla

Yugoslav

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It must be something in the water.

HEEEEEHAWWWWW

[lacky]

ok, first, a huge f'k you for making me type all this crap when i saw you like yesterday. everyone knows to ask me on life stuff, and everyone knows i hate to type. i'm also a friendly drunk.

ok, where you live has nothing to do with anything here. self motivation is the issue. nomatter where you live, you still have to be the one to motivate yourself. no roommate is gonna do that for you.

your basicaly saying you need a boss to tell you to work for you to be productive. I've been self-employed for years, and have known many, many self employed people with the same problem. They either fix it, or they fail and they go work for someone.

so, what to do. set goals. start with no less than 4 hours a day, 5 days a week, and stick to it. get into the habit of working everyday. then make it 30 hours a week, and hit that goal. weekly is better, cause it's more flexible, so after your used to working each day, do weekly.

DONT make short term money goals! the goal is hours /week or month, not $$$/week.

pick some people to send your "timesheet" to each week that will give you [censored] if you miss you goals. pick people outside of poker that make $10 or less an hour at a hard job. they wanna give you [censored] anyway, so those are the same people you will try to avoid giving them a reason.

moving and changing you suroundings can't hurt, but if you don't work on the real problem at the same time, it won't help either.

Steve