My son wants to get laid

[Big Bend]

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I'm not the one who had to use a gimmick account to inform everyone I'm not getting laid and still live with Mommy.

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Calm down tiger, I'm new. Check my post history or something if you need gratification.

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Hey ya'll stay outa my thread. Everybody else thanks a bunch for your input, I really appreciate the insights.


The lack of driving was mentioned cause when that changes it opens up possibilites for the kids to "make out" away from home. As involved parents we always know where the kids are and who they're with. But with this new girlfriend I'm sure my son feels like he's constantly being monitored.

Also while I'm certainly in favor of pre-maritial sex, I'm still not comfortable with saying to the 16 year olds "sure kids, close the doors, have some condoms, knock yourselves out". Thats a big change in the parent/child relationship.. and yes I'm sure if the girls parents found out they would be mad at us personally.

Babies get old quick..

BB

[2461Badugi]

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Thats a big change in the parent/child relationship..

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It's one that will be coming around quickly in any case. Handling it gracefully is a big step in keeping the relationship strong and amicable.

Of course at that age my mother was begging me to have sex simply because it would involve interacting with another human being. Needless to say that wasn't very graceful either.

In the end I would probably have no relationship with my parents now if it weren't for my GF. So don't forget to keep her happy too.

[Mason Hellmuth]

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Of course at that age my mother was begging me to have sex simply because it would involve interacting with another human being.

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Whoa, calm down Oedipus.

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Despite what our "leaders" want us to think, the world isn't made up of polarized situations. It's not a choice between "no way no how don't even talk about it" to "here's some lube and amyl nitrate, go at it!" The kid's gonna find a way to get laid if he wants to, so it's up to you to explain to him not only how to protect himself, but how to respect women (and himself, and humanity in general) so that he doesn't grow up to be a jerk. If you're frank with him, he'll be more likely to respect your boundaries. Explain to him where you're coming from. Tell him it would just make you feel weird for him to be going through such an important rite of passage with you in the next room. Heck, try to instill in him the sense that it's a big deal and it should be special. Make condoms available to him. And then let them close the friggin' door so they can smooch and feel each other up, for cryin' out loud. He's sixteen. World War II was fought by sixteen year olds. The leap between twelve and sixteen is huge. Let him grow up. Yeah, sixteen year olds are idiots, so help him be smarter.

And to the guy not gettin' it from him live-in girlfriend: (a) move out of your parents' house, and (b) dump the girl. Not having sex at your age is a symptom of something greater. I don't care how "in love" you are, obviously there are communications problems and your needs aren't getting met. Don't tie yourself down to something that will never improve and only breed resentment.

[Lighthouse00]

You have awful parenting techniques. Just let him learn to bang this girl so that when he gets to college and he bangs his first girl, she tells all of her friends that he is great in the sack. Then by the time he graduates he will have banged at least 50 girls, and probably have gotten a few threesomes out of it as well.

[Dan BRIGHT]

You think preventing your kids from having sex in your house will stop them from having sex? LOL brilliant move

[GoblinMason (Craig)]

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You think preventing your kids from having sex in your house will stop them from having sex? LOL brilliant move

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OP, this is what it boils down to. If they want to, they will, no doubt.

If you think he shouldn't, tell him why, but also let him know if he does, how he should go about it.

Also, I like the "in love" in quotes, you can be 16 and in love, it's just probably not going to work out.

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[chesspain]

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You think preventing your kids from having sex in your house will stop them from having sex? LOL brilliant move

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Yeah, OP is obviously a douche for not offering the kids booze and cigarettes as well to enjoy in their love nest hideaway down the hall.

[Ansky]

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You have awful parenting techniques. Just let him learn to bang this girl so that when he gets to college and he bangs his first girl, she tells all of her friends that he is great in the sack. Then by the time he graduates he will have banged at least 50 girls, and probably have gotten a few threesomes out of it as well.

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I agree w/ this guy.

[Dementia]

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Also while I'm certainly in favor of pre-maritial sex, I'm still not comfortable with saying to the 16 year olds "sure kids, close the doors, have some condoms, knock yourselves out".


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You dont need to say any of that, just give your son some privacy, don't be so anal about this 'open door' business, because it's pretty much indicative of wanting to 'check up on him'. Maybe to bring some milk & cookies? If you feel so anxious about 'allowing' him to be a man, then don't even be considerate and make sure he has some rubbers, let him knock her up and you can feign ignorance.