My life is over.

[DrJen]

GET couples counseling. Seriously. You state that you stil love this woman. Good. But your relationship is seriously off-kilter, and you don't know why. There seems to be a lot of assumption on the board that your partner is a gold-digger. However, there are many other explanations -- for example, that she resents that you are paying more attention to your computer than to her. The 20 conversations the 2 of you have had haven't worked -- it's time to try a different approach,