Do you Cheat?

[jackdaniels]

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I am a bit surprised to see that many here are saying a rub n' tug is cheating as well. It is possible that since this has never been an issue in my marriage (wife has no problem with this so long as the objective here isn't getting the HJ, but rather just being a natural culmination of an awesome massage

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she's cheating on you

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LOL!!!! Could be true, I guess one never knows till it is too late. I don't think so though - this conversation happened early in our relationship when we were still "experimenting" with sex (3somes/4somes/moresomes) and had a fairly open attitude to sexual behaviour. Things have changed since then as they do with most married couples - but I had always held out hope that she still felt the same about the massage thing (I have yet to test this though as we both use the same massage place and it is done as a duo where we both get massaged at the same time in the same room).

I am still waiting for some of you cheaters to create gimmick accounts and post your exploits!!!

[OrigamiSensei]

14 yrs, never cheated. Then again since the celebrities I most resemble are Howdy Doody and Poindexter from "Revenge of the Nerds" the ladies aren't exactly beating down my door to have an affair. Thus I can't exactly take a whole lot of credit for being faithful since I've never had the opportunity. I'd like to think I'd do the right thing, though.

[CheckCheckFold]

jackdaniels, i might be getting a threesome wiht my gf and her best friend this coming weekend. Do you have advice for the situation to not make anyone feel uncomfortable? I'm afraid that my gf might feel insecure as her friend has a better body than hers. I just don't know how it all would work out. Any advice on positions and what to say and such would be awesome. Thanks.

[turnipmonster]

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Married 1 year, never cheated, never will.

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[CamelZoo]

i'm 24 been married just over a year. i think i cheated on all but maybe one or two of my previous gf's. i would never cheat on my wife, and rub/tug/hooker whatever is most def. cheating. when i got married i feel like i made a promise to her, myself to build a bond with her through this life and beyond, and cheating would seriously tarnish that. if you want to hook up with lots of girls don't get married, it's not that hard. and if you find yourself cheating on your wife, then consider getting divorced, it's not fair to her. kind of hypocritical on my part, but i guess i drew the line at marriage... think about if you have a sister, she gets married, and you find out her husb is banging all sorts of ladies on the side, what would you want to do to him? especially after all the wedding bs, and him pretending to chum it up with you and your folks, not to mention your sis not knowing, etc.

i did catch myself wanting to take off my ring, or fiddling with it or hiding my L hand when in the presence of multiple hotties when out with friends/at party/etc but am getting much better with that. i got married v young, and am still getting used to saying "my wife" and being married while all my friends are not.

btw my wife did agree that if i ever met eva mendes, penelope cruz, or anne hathaway that it would be OK to hook it up one time - but her catch is that she has to "be there" [img]/images/graemlins/grin.gif[/img]

[Freakin]

guys who say "every married guy cheats" are just trying to excuse their actions.

[Buckmulligan]

While I trust the integrity of this forum, there aren't going to be a whole lot of cheaters who expose themselves and thus own up to being dooshbags.

[BreakfastBurrito]

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I know having kids complicates things, but anyone that "just lets it happen" either has problems in their marriage or other issues or shouldn't be married in the first place.

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Exactly. But how many married couples out there really SHOULD be married? How many people have found someone they love that deeply and unconditionally and hold sacred each and every one of their vows?

How many on the other hand have just crumbled under cultural, societal or family pressure to get married and settled for someone, or desire some aspects of married life (i.e. want a family) but don't really buy in to the whole concept of marriage? I would guess that the majority of marriages fall under the latter description.

FWIW, I've had discussions about this with a friend who cheats on her husband, and her explanation is basically that life is too short. She doesn't feel that her infidelity at all diminishes her commitment to her husband and marriage. She acknowledges that she would be upset if her husband was cheating as well, but if he was, she'd just rather not know about it. Pretty much a text book case of a girl who panicks and decides it is time to be married then grabs on to the guy who makes the most sense at the time. Gets off on the concept of being a married woman and is committed to sticking it out with him, but all other rules are bendable. I'd imagine this is a common attitude.

[Shajen]

BB:

I sure as hell hope not. Whatever she has to tell herself to ease the guilt huh?

Sounds like a real winner.

[CamelZoo]

I was about to type the same thing. Your friend is in major denial obv.