Would you be ok with your gf going skinny dipping with guys?

[gorie]

actually i think it's a little strange that she would want to do this without you around. i would have questions about why she finds it necessary and what is appealing about it. it's something already planned, why not just bring a suit. obviously they all like the idea of being swimming naked together enough to plan the 'possibility' for some reason. this is hard for me to relate to, so i can't really say much about that.

the fact that she asked you first doesn't necessarily mean she has honest intentions. but it is good that she wants your approval and is being honest in asking about it. even if she won't cheat on you, there is definitely something she does like about this idea other than going for a swim.

it seems to bother you about other guys seeing her naked and what they might want/try to do... maybe this is what she likes about it.

so, what if you say no ? will she simply not go ? will this create resentment between the two of you ? also why don't you go with ?

[kurosh]

I'm not going for a few reasons I don't want to get into but this group of friends does not like me. She didn't ask me if it was ok. She told me she was going swimming tomorrow and was being a little weird about it so I pressed her about it and asked her if they were skinny dipping. She said in swimsuits but the possibility is there and she'd do it if they wanted to.

[Zurvan]

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I'm not going for a few reasons I don't want to get into but this group of friends does not like me. She didn't ask me if it was ok. She told me she was going swimming tomorrow and was being a little weird about it so I pressed her about it and asked her if they were skinny dipping. She said in swimsuits but the possibility is there and she'd do it if they wanted to.

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So they're taking bathing suits, but might decide to take them off? This is her ex-bf, and that group of friends doesn't like you?

I would hate the idea regardless, but I'm weird like that. Given this new information, I would say that you definitely do NOT want this to happen. I know you trust her, but this smells funny. She clearly felt weird about it, or thought you might not like it, which likely means she was thinking it might be wrong. Or thought that you might think it was wrong.

I would be honest with her, and say you wouldn't want her skinny dipping (if that's how you feel), and that the idea makes you uncomfortable. If she has a swimsuit, she can just NOT take it off - that's pretty easy. If they're her friends, they should have no problem with that, right? If she has a problem with that, I would really want to know why.

Pretty simple, IMO.

[gorie]

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I'm not going for a few reasons I don't want to get into but this group of friends does not like me. She didn't ask me if it was ok. She told me she was going swimming tomorrow and was being a little weird about it so I pressed her about it and asked her if they were skinny dipping. She said in swimsuits but the possibility is there and she'd do it if they wanted to.

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So they're taking bathing suits, but might decide to take them off? This is her ex-bf, and that group of friends doesn't like you?

I would hate the idea regardless, but I'm weird like that. Given this new information, I would say that you definitely do NOT want this to happen. I know you trust her, but this smells funny. She clearly felt weird about it, or thought you might not like it, which likely means she was thinking it might be wrong. Or thought that you might think it was wrong.

I would be honest with her, and say you wouldn't want her skinny dipping (if that's how you feel), and that the idea makes you uncomfortable. If she has a swimsuit, she can just NOT take it off - that's pretty easy. If they're her friends, they should have no problem with that, right? If she has a problem with that, I would really want to know why.

Pretty simple, IMO.

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i agree with this !

the fact that her friends don't like you, would make me especially uneasy. but mainly because i've had really bad experience in the past being accepting of my boyfriend staying friends with someone that didn't like me.

[Daliman]

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I'm not going for a few reasons I don't want to get into but this group of friends does not like me. She didn't ask me if it was ok. She told me she was going swimming tomorrow and was being a little weird about it so I pressed her about it and asked her if they were skinny dipping. She said in swimsuits but the possibility is there and she'd do it if they wanted to.

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Ok, let me see if I have this all down right;

- This group of her friends don't like you.
- It includes her ex-boyfriend.
- She was initially evasive about it.
- You had to press her to get the details, and even suspected something amiss.
- Swimsuits WILL be there, but they may skinny dip anyways.
- She will do it if they want to, e.g. SHE wants to do it.


Sounds TOTALLY innocent.

On an unrelated note, can your GF sleep with me in my bed? Naked? We won't have sex.

Actually, none of this matters. I guarantee she has done this(and worse) before, and will again either way. You either need to break up with her or get used to dating a slut.

But first, stick it in her pooper

[Adam Stewart]

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I'm not going for a few reasons I don't want to get into but this group of friends does not like me. She didn't ask me if it was ok. She told me she was going swimming tomorrow and was being a little weird about it so I pressed her about it and asked her if they were skinny dipping. She said in swimsuits but the possibility is there and she'd do it if they wanted to.

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Man, open your eyes! You're so in denial right now.


[i]The fact that she is socializing with a group of friends who don't like you should raise flags - not to mention that she wants to go skinny dipping with them! Not to mention one of them is her ex-boyfried! Come on...



Adam

[bernie]

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I'm not going for a few reasons I don't want to get into but this group of friends does not like me. She didn't ask me if it was ok. She told me she was going swimming tomorrow and was being a little weird about it so I pressed her about it and asked her if they were skinny dipping. She said in swimsuits but the possibility is there and she'd do it if they wanted to.

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Man, open your eyes! You're so in denial right now.


[i]The fact that she is socializing with a group of friends who don't like you should raise flags - not to mention that she wants to go skinny dipping with them! Not to mention one of them is her ex-boyfried! Come on...



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Is the ex b/f single?

But wouldn't this group be saying nothing but good things about her b/f? [img]/images/graemlins/smirk.gif[/img] Trying to help make her relationship stronger should the subject of her b/f come up? Yeah, right. Leads to the question of why she'd want to hang with a 'group' like this. Not that this will happen, it might not, but still...(I've seen this happen with guys 'consoling' chicks about their current b/fs in attempts to put the b/f in bad light so they look better. Guys tend to be the ones to broach the subject. That's one reason guys listen to chicks crap about their b/fs. Sign of weakness attracts them so they might be able to be next at the plate)

Where is the mutual respect? In this thread I see many saying 'you should trust her', blah blah. Where's her part in it? Where's her role in not putting her boyfriend in that position? How much respect is she showing if she goes anyways regardless of how the OP feels about it? And for what? Skinnydipping with people (dudes) that don't care for her b/f. Especially if she knows he's not fond of it? She doesn't really sound like that great a girlfriend. If she's adamant about going, she sure isn't thinking of you. Trust and respect is not a one way street.

If I was one of the guys skinnydipping with this chick, I'd think it was a little odd that she was there w/o him. I would wonder just how tight you guys are. Some guys would like to test that. Especially single ex b/fs.

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[ChipWrecked]

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I'm not going for a few reasons I don't want to get into but this group of friends does not like me. She didn't ask me if it was ok. She told me she was going swimming tomorrow and was being a little weird about it so I pressed her about it and asked her if they were skinny dipping. She said in swimsuits but the possibility is there and she'd do it if they wanted to.

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Naked or not, the answer here is not only hell no, but hit the highway and have a nice life, biatch.

[ChipWrecked]

She is feeling you out. You have already given her the trump card by not standing your ground and forbidding it right away. She has lost all respect she might have had for you. The only way you gain the man's place in the relationship now is to break up with her. If you decide to take her back, you are in the driver's seat. If you let this go on, you have given her the pants. If that's OK with you, then proceed, by all means. At this point, your balls are in her purse. You'd better get them back, pronto, before they shrivel.

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I'm not going for a few reasons I don't want to get into but this group of friends does not like me. She didn't ask me if it was ok. She told me she was going swimming tomorrow and was being a little weird about it so I pressed her about it and asked her if they were skinny dipping. She said in swimsuits but the possibility is there and she'd do it if they wanted to.

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Kurosh-- This really does not sound right. Dude ask yourself why are they planning on all getting naked together? How can this not be something more than innocent?

THESE ARE GUYS, THIS ISN'T ABOUT SWIMMING!

I think this bothers you because you know something isn't right

Is this the same old ex G/F who was causing you all the grief some months ago?