Marriage: One unfaithfulness exception, or none?

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I disagree with several posters who say that my thinking about this possibility is a bad sign for marriage success. I think it would be more likely to succeed, because marriages that are based only on passion find it difficult to surmount obstacles later - keeping a level head may not be the best thing in terms of "I love you for ever and ever baby [img]/images/graemlins/heart.gif[/img]" but probably it's better in the long term. People who dismiss or ignore difficulties are less prepared to deal with them.

Agree or disagree?

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Disagree, only because cheating is a total betrayal of everything the marriage is supposed to stand for. Of course there are going to be fights and rocky times, but planning for the possibility of an affair seems ridiculous to me. The posters who have said that you have no idea how you will react are probably right. It's fine to plan for what things you want to do to keep your marriage fresh, how to read trouble signs in the marriage, and so on to AVOID affairs, but emotion plays such a huge role in how you will react that trying to come up with a rational plan in advance seems a little pointless.