So I had a date tonight

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Some good advice and some bad advice in spacebetween's post.

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Honestly goofy, you seem like a nice guy so I'm gonna give you some advice.

1. NEVER pay for anything, it kinda looks like you are insecure and think you have to buy her things so she can hang out with you.

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This is completely wrong. Of course it will depend on the girl, but some girls will think you are incapable of taking care of them if you can't as much as pay for a meal, and some will be insulted if you try to pay for the meal because it takes away their independence or something. In most cases though, pay for the meal, and if she argues tell her she can pay the tip and leave it at that.
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2. NEVER try to make it look or feel like a date. Girls don't like date. It's formal, it sucks, it's awkward, etc...

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This is one hell of a sweeping generalization.
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3. Dinner is not a good date. It's boring.

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You are sort of right, DOING stuff is often the best thing for a first date. But if you are at a stage when you are trying to get to know someone better (is this person gf material?), dinner is a fantastic date. Better yet, cook the dinner yourself and she will be very very impressed.
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6. You try to go for a kiss!!! ARE YOU [censored] RETARDED??? You can't kiss a girl if you havent been touching her at all all night, its gonna be so awkward. Start by holding her hands, hugging, touch girls when you talk to them. It's possible to do it without being creepy, and that's the way to go.

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Right on. Don't set yourself up for failure.

Some things I would add:

-If you can't visualize yourself being with this girl, then you won't. You have to exude confidence and certainty.

-Dating is like poker. The best players know how to use initiative and be aggressive to scoop up more than their fair share of pots, even when their cards aren't that great. They also know that they won't win every pot, so they play a lot of hands. And when they get a bad beat, they know that its ultimately necessary for that to happen for them to make $ in the long run.

-Don't let yourself become emotionally involved or attached to someone until AT LEAST the 3rd date. Having a 1st date go badly should make you upset for a maximum of 20 minutes.

edit: And good lord, don't write letters like that ever again. My GF used to have a stalker that wrote letters exactly like that. I had to set him straight.