Very interesting situation: What goes around, comes around..

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This is a long post...lol...sorry. You can read my reasons for posting this at the bottom if you would like.

Ok, first of all this is a very interesting situation in which I did something to someone that was not very nice at all, and a couple years later it came back to bite me; almost the exact same situation, only this time I recieved the unpleasant outcome. It just goes to show you that you should always treat people fairly and don't do anything too cold to them..or it may come back at you, whether is was intentional or not. Anyway here are the details if you care

About two years ago, this girl I knew since I was in kindergarden, asked me out. She asked me point blank whether or not I liked her; since she probably thought that I thought our relationship was more brother/sister-friends rather than someone you would date. Anyway, I told her that I kinda liked her. Well, I kinda lied about that; which was not smart at all. See, I did think she was semi-attractive but I was not really into her, so I said "yes" just so we could go on a few dates before I would tell her that I really didnt like her that much. See, I didnt want to be really mean to her and say "no" immediatly. I wanted to ease into it so she wouldnt feel as bad... bad idea. So, in short what eventually happened was that I ended up ignoring her when she came up to talk to me unintentionally. After that point, she refused to talk to me and "cold-shouldered" me for that year and till this day I have yet to talk to her.

Anyway, after that situation was over, I really didn't give it much thought. Only after my situation was over, did I realize how much I hurt the girl.

Ok, heres the part that sucks and is still (slightly) eating at me. About two years ago, since I had yet to have a girlfriend and yet to pursue anyone at all, I was thinking about what my ideal girlfriend would look like (physical charactertics; long hair, short hair, etc). I'm not going to go in detail, boring everyone, but in general, the girl I would be looking for would about about 7-8/10 or so but I would be really attracted to her. So, in short she would seem very attainable for me. Well, on the first day of the spring semester (in college) that girl walked in my class... My jaw dropped, my heart pounded, and I was stuggling to take notes because I found myself staring at her uncontrollably. I as getting sweating palms just thinking about asking her out. This was really crazy for me. Before any of you think I am a nutcase, I am not. I consider myself to be a pretty rational person and I have never in my life been attracted to any girl like this. Not even close.

Anyway, to shorten this massive post, I introduced myself (maybe the most nervous I've ever been) and later on in the semester asked her if she would study with me (I know...weak..but I thought that would be the best possible chance) Anyway, she said she had a boyfriend (which she didn't, I'm almost sure she hasnt ever had one). Yea, so I got rejeced and was pretty pissed. Actually I was crushed. Even later on in the semester when I found out she was exteremly stuck-up and arrogant and lied numerous times to both her friends and myself, I couldn't get over her.

Is that strange or what?? Heres a girl who might possiblly be the most stuck-up girl I have ever met, has zero personal interests, and has a personality that I could not stand, and I still am thinking about her.. Damn I'm stupid...

Anyway, I guess the point is this: What goes around comes around. Only after I got rejected, I realized how much I crushed this poor girl. And to tell you the truth, I think she was hurt much more than me. Just imagine..she has known me for like 15-17 years; who knows how long she had her feelings bottled up??

<u>Ok I am posting this for a few reasons</u>

1) Has anyone experienced a situation in which the saying applys: "What goes around, comes around" (this can be dealing with <u>anything</u> , not just asking a girl out)

2) Please be a man and share your stories of rejections that hurt alot (this was my first)

3) Learn from my experience and try to treat people the way you would like to be treated cause it may come back to bite you in the ass.

4) I know for a fact that this girl is not right for me at all yet I still think about her solely because she looks like the girl of my dreams (not implying that she is a 9 or 10). Any ideas on how to move forward?