Pregnant GF

[VoraciousReader]

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This sounds like substituting rolling over and playing dead for figuring out how to lead a happier life.

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Nope.

All of us will have things happen to us that are unfair.

We can rail against the universe or we can accept life as it is, and devote our energies to figuring out how we can make the best of our situation and still get what we want.

I'm certainly not unsympathetic to any young man or young woman that finds him/herself in this situation. That said, life isn't fair. At least this problem is partly self-inflicted. Many circumstances that people find themselves in are not.

I find the line of thinking that this is somehow something that the girl is doing to the OP repugnant, narrow-minded, and completely lacking in compassion and empathy.

Regardless of what one feels about abortion, it is still true that a woman can not get pregnant by herself. It is also true that whatever she chooses, her life will change more than the man in the equation.

Here's a question for those of you contending that she is evil for violating her sacred "promise": if you promise the woman in your life that you will love her and stay with her forever, are you bound by that promise as much as she is bound by the "abort the baby" promise? Regardless of what may happen in the future? Regardless of how feelings may change?

I think this is an analogous promise, because it involves the same factors:

1. It is based on what you are feeling at that moment.
2. It is easy to promise and difficult to do.
3. It is something that you may feel very very differently about at some point, much as you may not think so at the time.
4. It is very clear which answer your significant other wants to hear.
5. Keeping it will impact you for the rest of your life.

If there is any circumstance under which you would not consider yourself bound by this promise , how is the promise that she made different?