Pregnant GF

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Its entirely her fault and not at all his that he decided to be irresponsible and not wrap it up.


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She was on the pill, AND they add an agreement to abort if a pregnancy happened. This IS entirely her fault. If she hadn't [censored] changed her mind and gone back on their agreement, this wouldn't have ever happened.

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congrats on being a moron.


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Careful, because ...

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it's easy to say certain things and much harder to mean them in many instances - this is one of them. and while the girl's opposition to adoption is difficult to handle, OP still has responsibility here, in one form or another.


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... a promise is still a promise. If breaking a promise were okay just because they were hard to keep, would there ever really be a reason to make one? It being hard is probably the main reason to even have the concept of a promise in the first place, much less to make one.

It's easy to understand what you're saying and sympathize with both your notion and the girl, really, but it's very silly to define the notion of honesty the way you do. You can't fairly castigate a guy for using words and concepts the way they're laid out in the dictionary and commonly understood. Also, calling people name's isn't fairly castigating them either.

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however, if OP will resent the child and the life he has to lead because of this (like he seems to now), staying with the child doesn't necessarily seem to be the best option. i mean, if he can't hack it as a father or a husband - that's no good for everyone involved. again, it's easy to say he will be responsible and not resentful, but meaning it for 5, 10, or 20 years is very difficult.

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This is right on the money. Just because a guy can produce jizz doesn't mean he can be a good father. Therefore it doesn't mean a good childhood is so automatic that fatherhood should always be undertaken regardless of the circumstances and feelings of the father.

Personally, I believe a child should be loved; that's the least we owe it. Others think they're speaking kindly, but when it comes right down to it, are fairly indifferent to the child's fate in these discussions. All they care is that it come out. After that, they leave it to go straight to hell if that's the way it works out, or hope that some sort of magic will intercede and take care of everything. And that they can then go back into a sort of moral sleep and forget about whatever happens next, but feeling pretty darn good about their own morality.