My son wants to get laid

[Sigurd]

I'm scared. Literally.

Do you honestly believe that you motivate people to grow up to become responsible adults by overloading them with rules and imposing hard punishments?
It obviously works, but it simply isn't the best way to raise children. So, how do a 20 yearold like me know. Well, I'm basically writing what I belive that my parents would write.


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A LOT of the earlier responses are just horrible. Another thing I have discover recently is that a lot of people in their late teens to early 20's really want to do nothing...marginal ambition, marginal life aspirations. Maybe they get good grades, but their life outlook at the moment sucks. They would love NOTHING more than to be able to chill with a willing partner all day long every day in a bedroom where they could watch television and do nothing all day. Not a healthy environment at all.

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What makes you belive that a more strict upbringing would have changed this? How do you know that these kids aren't rebelling against their strict parents?

Also, an "open door"-policy is basically a way of telling your son that you DO NOT trust him. This is not a good thing to do.
If you don't think your son is ready to have sex yet, I would recon that you definately don't think that your son is ready to have unprotected sex in some random shed in the ghetto, because they couldn't find somewhere else, and they didn't have condoms, since their snoopy parents would freak out if they found out that they had bought any, and haden't told them that they would both get herpes, AIDS and BOTH become pregnant if they had unprotected sex.