My son wants to get laid

[Lester B]

There is a ton of horrible advice in this thread, almost all of which from obvious non-parents. Taking advice from a bunch of kids telling you to chill out because that's what they wish their parents had done is idiotic.

The man to man conversation has to happen. My advice would be to keep it short, and make sure that he knows that sex is an adult decision, with adult consequences. Also he should be aware that no method of prevention is 100% effective; there is always some risk of infection/pregnancy etc. You obviously care about his well being but it may need to be reiterated to him... and of course be willing to answer any questions honestly if he has any (he surely will have questions, he just needs to be able to ask them). Teenagers often feel a world of pressure you may not remember from 20 years ago.

Also, keep in mind that your younger son(s) are paying close attention to this, so make sure your chat doesn't come across as a green light to bang his girlfriend.

One last thing, you said:

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...quit trying to make out in our house.

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Did you actually say this to your son? This is counterproductive to what you are trying to accomplish. This tells your son that what he's doing is inappropriate behavior, which is fundamentally wrong. He has feelings of affection, and he shouldn't be ashamed to express them. Parental instinct steers us toward outright prevention, and maybe in the 1950's that was correct. But we don't live in the 1950's. What he needs to know is that there is a time and a place for everything, and good judgement needs to be exercised.

Hope it goes well for you.