I didn't get laid last night! Trip Report!

[RayPowers]

Cliff notes: Long and whiny. [img]/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img]

So, Wednesday is my normal pub poker night, where I hang out with my Dad and some friends. Driving home with the wife, I mention some frisky statement about how I want to get her naked, etc. She seems very into the idea, but we both know I have pub poker, and I normally get home after she has fallen asleep. She also mentions she is tired, and has a lot of work to do tonight, so I mention I'll make her a deal; I'll not go to pub poker if I can stop and get Chipotle for dinner (we normally are "on our own" for dinner Wednesdays since I go to a pub) and I'll let her take a power nap while watching the kids. She agrees and comments about how we'll get naked after the kids go to bed.

We eat dinner, she naps, I play with kids, she gets up and starts on her work, kids and I watch movie, we both put kids bed, and then... she goes back to work. Not exactly the getting naked I was expecting, but she does have to get work done, so I sit down to read some 2+2 and watch the Pro Poker Tour.

Shortly after, the wife starts making comments about how I am addicted to poker and its all I do, and how much time I spend on it. This is right after we had a conversation last week that I spend too much time on the computer (presumably playing poker), and I agreed to not be on the computer while the kids were awake, which I have stuck to, faithfully. In addition, I've been playing Magic Online more lately, and have dived head first into season two of Lost (see other threads). In all reality, I haven't been doing much poker, and in fact, I gave up poker tonight to be with her. So this statement cranks me quite a bit and I let her know. I tell her that I've not been doing that, yes I do realize I spend a lot of time on my hobbies in general, but I'm making it sure it doesn't impact the family, and she's being a killjoy in complaining about the things I like to do.

She apologizes for being a killyjoy, but really, what did she expect from that conversation? I accept her apology, but am still kinda cranky in general that she ruined my "high" of having a nice relaxing evening despite not getting the immediate nakedness I was expecting.

Eventually she is done working, and says she is going upstairs to bed and wants to know if I want to come. Well , of course I do. Duh. So I finish up an email, shut out the lights and such and go up, and she's laying in bed reading a book. Exciting.

I start trying to fool around but she's not into it because she "can''t be intimate when the relationship is broken" and asks me if I want to talk about it. To my wife, a relationship is "broken" every time we have any fight. I tell her we already did. I already accepted her apology, I said nothing is broken in the relationship, so what exactly do we need to talk about. She says "nothing I guess" and of course now she's annoyed at me. Fantastic.

So now I am super annoyed at her because she basically has set up an entire situation where some inflammatory comments she made has resulted in not only me getting any, but somehow it being my fault because I'm not talking to her about something I have nothing more to say on.

I am, in some way, proud of her for such a good Kobayashi Maru, but I'm still pretty pissed off.

Ideas on a better way to handle it?

Ray