Found out my roomate's GF used to be a mega-ho

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I started this post because I needed an outlet for my reaction to this information. I didn't want to go to any of my friends that know Joe and Maria because I felt like I would be perpetuating rumors that could only harm.

You must understand that my entire perception of this woman, who will very likely marry my best friend, was completely turned upside down. This generated some serious angst. I wasn't sure if I could walk around knowing this while my best friend since grade school didn't. After I have had some time to reflect things seem more clear now.

I am pretty sure that Joe doesn't know the extent of Maria's past activities because most girls in this situation would be less than completely honest. Also Joe is pretty open and I know that information like this would bother him and if he knew he likely would have said something to me just to vent. Maybe not. However I also do not know to what extent these past incidents have been exaggerated. They almost have to be exaggrated to some degree.

I really do not care what Maria did in the past. Her and Joe have a solid relationship from what I can see. And if it makes them happy I hope they do get married. What worried me was the way that she portrayed herself now. It could come as quite a shock to Joe to find out the info I did. I don't want some dude from some shiite band confronting him with this info when he is wholly unprepared.

In the worst case scenario, if Joe is confronted, they should be able to work through it on their terms. If they are going to keep together a long term relationship this should be small potatoes in the scheme of things.

I never wanted to tell Joe in the first place and now I think that is probably the best decision. I am going to try to forget I ever heard any of this as this knowledge may well eat at me.

Anyway - thanks OOT it's been therapeutic