Question for happily married people

[Utah]

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Simple - these things, simply said, are exremely hard for many people to actually make real

[/ QUOTE ]Why are they hard to make real? Why dont they work for most people?

To me, the incredibly low success rate of such an approach signals that something is wrong somewhere with the relationship/marriage model. If we are to assume that such an approach is the only way to a successful marriage then can one conclude that marriage as an institution will never be more successful than it is today?

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Who's the longest married in OOT, I wonder? I'll be 17 yrs in 4 months

[/ QUOTE ]17 years. Wow, that is a loooong time. Congrats.