Question for happily married people

[Utah]

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but who said those things were easy?

[/ QUOTE ]Actually, I am saying that they simply dont work for most relationships as they dont address core needs.

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I know some great people who are completely doomed in any relationship because they have been screwed over in the past and just cannot brings themselves to really trust that this new person won't do the same.

[/ QUOTE ]That is an interesting comment. I guess someone can be damaged to the point of not being able to have a relationship. However, I think in general people are very resilient.

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Not to mention that the world is filled with plenty of people with no desire to put the wants and needs of someone else in front of their own. If the relationship can't work entirely on their terms, [censored] it, move on to someone else.

[/ QUOTE ]Aren't we all like that at the core? We may compromise to get what we ultimately want, but it has nothing to do with putting the needs of others in front of ours. I am a firm believer that every act we take is selfish in the end.