When you have a daughter.... - Page 5

evil twin · #41 03-20-2006, 01:08 PM

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Can anyone please give me a reason other than status or vanity as to why a 13 year old needs to have a text messaging cell phone?

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Because text messages almost always get through in those almost-no signal areas where you could not make a call. I pretty much agree with your view on teenies texting each other continually, but there's a reason you might want it.

gamblore99 · #42 03-20-2006, 01:12 PM

Scaring your daughters prospective suitors is a bad idea, unless done solely for comical reasons. If I bring a girl over to my house, I would expect my housemates to be polite and well mannered, not do something really stupid and compromise my chances with this girl.

So what you scare this one boy away? Next time she will just not introduce you to the boy and you will become more out of the loop. A lot of peopel said keep a close and open relationship with her, and hope she makes good decisions. That is solid advice.

diebitter · #43 03-20-2006, 01:16 PM

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Scaring your daughters prospective suitors is a bad idea....

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howabout scarring them?

spamuell · #44 03-20-2006, 02:05 PM

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Girls (and boys) at that age don't really know where money comes from, so how can you expect them to be responsible for something like that. They know that someone else will eventually pay for it.

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Don't be ridiculous, I had a mobile phone at 14 and was very aware that I'd better not create too large a bill, because while I wouldn't be forced to pay it that month (due to not being able to), I certainly wouldn't get my phone back for a long time. 14 year olds are not 5.

Low Limit Loser · #45 03-20-2006, 02:11 PM

As a father, the classic line to use with your daughters young suitor is: "Junior, I follow the Golden rule in reverse when it comes to my daughter. It's kinda like this, if you make HER cry, I will make YOU cry. Do you understand? Good, cause I'd to explain where I'll put my dick if you [censored] her".

The only downside is if the boy is a smart ass enough to ask a question like "So If I give her oral sex ..........."

LLL

Spladle · #46 03-20-2006, 07:16 PM

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This sounds great 4_2_it. I think all kids need strong values and open communication with their parents. I have a son not a daughter, but I think a lot about what I'm going to say to him about sex and when. I think maybe the best way for your daughter to be protected is for us to instill the same values in our sons, so that they will treat the women they interact with in their lives with respect.

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Are you a girl?

mwgr5 · #47 03-20-2006, 08:21 PM

I will give you a different prospective. I am the 18 year old suiter who is going after the daughters. Of coarse my friends and I are always want to have sex.

However, I think going on a date means that the guy actually cares about the girl. When I like a girl enough to date her I would not want to hurt the relationship by having sex right away, esepecially if I could tell she was uncomfortable.

Sex parents don't want happens at parties. When girls get drunk guys become vultures. So if you are concerned about your daugher having sex or getting in a bad situation IMO be more concerned about parties, drugs, and booze and less concerned about the dating.

About the text message thing. She doesn't need it. You should start saving money for all the expensive [censored] she will want later like dresses and a car.

You don't have to answer this but what would be the ideal thing you would like a guy to say to you when taking his daugher out. Just for my curiosity if you want to answer

RunDownHouse · #48 03-20-2006, 08:27 PM

Its much less about what you say than it is about your entire "vibe." You can sure [censored] the whole situation up based on what you say, but little you can say will drastically improve things.

I don't have kids, fwiw.

plaxburress · #49 03-20-2006, 08:36 PM

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Its much less about what you say than it is about your entire "vibe." You can sure [censored] the whole situation up based on what you say, but little you can say will drastically improve things.

I don't have kids, fwiw.

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who is that in your avatar?

4_2_it · #50 03-20-2006, 08:57 PM

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You don't have to answer this but what would be the ideal thing you would like a guy to say to you when taking his daugher out. Just for my curiosity if you want to answer

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I am looking at how you present yourself. Do you look me in the eye while we are talking? Do you appear nervous or disheveled?

(This question is probably not applicable to you) When I ask you what your plans for the evening are do you hesitate or try to deflect my question? (BTW - My daughter has told me her version of the itinerary so your answer should back that up.)

Be prepared to talk about yourself. What do you like to do? Sports is a good ice breaker. College/job is a plus.

Basically I want to know that my precious bundle of joy can expect to have a safe, enjoyable evening. I trust her judgment, so I am not worried about you getting too far without her approval in the physical contact department, I am just making sure that you aren't a psychopath.

Most of this applies to a 16 year old, but I hope you can take something useful from it. When my daughter turns 18, I recognize that I have to let her live her life.