When you have a daughter....

ooinsight · #1 03-20-2006, 05:13 AM

So I was just reading over the baby changing table post and started thinking about the fear of teenage daughter. I believe that all guys dread the idea of having a daughter that ends up dating a scumbag, hence the "I will buy a gun to clean the first time the boyfriend shows up" thought process. I just had a boy so I don't need to worry about this dilemma for a little bit but it started me thinking..

So the question is when you meet the guy taking your daughter out for the first/four hundredth time, what is you preferred method of fear?

I think cleaning the gun is played so I would probably sharpen the katana instead...

Scotty. · #2 03-20-2006, 05:20 AM

I would definetly like to have a son first. My teenage sister just got her first b/f. This guy damn well better be showing her respect, and he should be a lot more worried about me than my dad.

JaBlue · #3 03-20-2006, 05:24 AM

yeah, i seriously do not want to have daughters

diebitter · #4 03-20-2006, 05:26 AM

I have a daughter. I think once she's old enough to date, I'll have calmed the hell down about it, but it's 'cleean the shiny chrome shotgun' for me at the moment.

Oh, and make sure her two big brothers are around and snarling too.

Oh, and as they leave, have a quiet word.
"If you touch her, I'll cut you." should suffice.

4_2_it · #5 03-20-2006, 09:22 AM

I have two daughters (8 & 12) so I have been giving this a lot of thought of late. First, my plan is stay involved in their lives so I know a little bit about Romeo before they have a date with him. Second, I remember all the tricks I used and I plan to have my daughters thoroughly educated before the dating rituals start.

The best way to put the fear of God into a 16 year old boy is to firmly shake his hand and look him directly in the eye as you tell him how much you love your daughter and that you expect him to abide by curfew and treat her nice. When done properly, (in view of the gun case full of semi-automatic weapons is optional, but more effective) this will keep Romeo in line for a date or two. The rest is up my daughter. I have to trust her sometime.

diebitter · #6 03-20-2006, 09:23 AM

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I have two daughters (8 & 12) so I have been giving this a lot of thought of late. First, my plan is stay involved in their lives so I know a little bit about Romeo before they have a date with him. Second, I remember all the tricks I used and I plan to have my daughters thoroughly educated before the dating rituals start.

The best way to put the fear of God into a 16 year old boy is to firmly shake his hand and look him directly in the eye as you tell him how much you love your daughter and that you expect him to abide by curfew and treat her nice. When done properly, (in view of the gun case full of semi-automatic weapons is optional, but more effective) this will keep Romeo in line for a date or two. The rest is up my daughter. I have to trust her sometime.

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very well said.

MrTrik · #7 03-20-2006, 09:31 AM

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I have two daughters (8 & 12) so I have been giving this a lot of thought of late. First, my plan is stay involved in their lives so I know a little bit about Romeo before they have a date with him. Second, I remember all the tricks I used and I plan to have my daughters thoroughly educated before the dating rituals start.

The best way to put the fear of God into a 16 year old boy is to firmly shake his hand and look him directly in the eye as you tell him how much you love your daughter and that you expect him to abide by curfew and treat her nice. When done properly, (in view of the gun case full of semi-automatic weapons is optional, but more effective) this will keep Romeo in line for a date or two. The rest is up my daughter. I have to trust her sometime.

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If you raise her like you talk about in that post she'll be able to make the right decisions. You touched on the biggy though -- staying involved in her life and talking about virtually everything.

I don't have children and never will, but if I had a daughter I'd do it like you. And when she's ready to date, at say age 32 or so, I'd go the shotgun route for sure. Nothing like the sound of racking a 12 guage to make the poor date guy think.

Seriously though, raise her right and she'll have what it takes to handle dating.

Schwartzy61 · #8 03-20-2006, 09:32 AM

No experience with this but a funny way as described by Bill Engvall was something to the effect...

If you don't respect my daughter, treat her like a lady, and have her back by curfew, I have no problem going BACK to prison...

daveymck · #9 03-20-2006, 09:57 AM

I plan on bricking up all of the doors and windows in 6 years time and taking out the internet.

My stepson has just started asking me dating advice which is pretty cool, it all seems to be done via MSN and webcam these days, but I dont know how I would feel/react when my daughter gets to that age.

4_2_it · #10 03-20-2006, 10:08 AM

Another thought. When I get my daughter a cell phone (probably for her 13th B-day) it will not have a text message feature. 13-17 year olds do not "need" to text each other. They can use the phone or exchange email if they "need" to communicate.

Young teen girls AIMing each other only creates more problems than it's worth. I'd rather be the hard ass, than deal with the consequences of this stuff gone awry.

Question: What is so important in the live of a 13 year-old that she has to AIM her friends ASAP?

Answer: Nothing.

Also, I don't let me kids participate in chat rooms because a young teenager is not ready to handle the 'real' world environment many of these innocent chat rooms offer.

Again, I know I can't stop my kids from dating boys and everything that goes with it, but I can put them in a position where they will be able to make good decisions. I just communicate with my kids and stay as involved as I can. Hopefully, the 13 years of parenting has had some positive impact on them.