Best friend slept with girl of my dreams, what SHOULD I do?

[NicksDad1970]

[ QUOTE ]
Alobar,

"Basically what you are saying is that its ok to put your base desires above the feelings of your friends. Im sorry I would never do something like that to one of my friends"

No, dude, that's not what I'm saying at all.

What I'm saying is that sh** happens.

In this case, we don't know how buzzed the dude was, how much he tried to resist, how persistent the girl was, etc.

I'm not saying he did a good thing or the friend shouldn't be pissed at him. However, there is a huge difference between what we know happened and some guy trying to get some action at any cost, including the loss of a friendship.

I have passed up hooking up w/ girls many times because I know some guy WHO THEY DON'T LIKE AT ALL has a big crush on them and would feel really bad if I hooked up w/ the girl. However, I've also ended up in situations, often involving alcohol, where I've done some things that after the fact I regret a little and in retrospect would have handled differently. I'm surprised this seems so black and white to you.

[/ QUOTE ]

I've only skimmed through this thread but which is it in one reply I thought you said "You never had any chance and your friend rules. Don't hate, appreciate."

If that's so should he be mad at him, appreciate him, or both?

[NicksDad1970]

"The gist of it is:

- Bring up fond memories
- Apologizes for how careless he is with my friendship
- He just wanted to bang both sisters
- He thought he could get away with it (nope, his ex knows now)
- One of his biggest regrets
- Will try to keep in touch, hopes I do too eventually

The getting away with it part really sickens me."

What I got from that was - I did it and got caught, which sucks.

If you ever get over it give me a call. I don't really care if you do though.

[fongo]

[ QUOTE ]
[ QUOTE ]
Perg,

I may be being overly superficial here, but nothing is boosting anything past that chick's weird ass dino face.

[/ QUOTE ]
hrm....



onto something?



[/ QUOTE ]

[DrewDevil]

[ QUOTE ]
[ QUOTE ]
[ QUOTE ]


Here's an article from a female point of view that might shed some insight into your situation.

[/ QUOTE ]

What a bitch.

[/ QUOTE ]

Question:

What do you do as a guy to avoid being perceived like this once you are in the friend zone? I straight up asked a friend out and she said no. I still like her, so I'd either like to:
A) get over her and then be good friends with her, which is tough because everytime we hang out we have an amazing time and it makes me want her,
or
B) [censored] her brains out.

I guess the standard advice will be to ignore her/be cold to her. Which seems dumb since I enjoy being with her so much.

[/ QUOTE ]

No, the answer is to treat her like a friend. Tell her all about your sex life and all the other chicks you are plowing, in great detail. This will convert you from a eunuch into a sexual person in her mind and she will start thinking of you as a possible [censored].

[TripSearching]

I am too lazy to read the whole thread right now but when I scrolled down you did post pics so I will share with you some advice. If I were you, I would knock out 'said' friend who hooked up with the girl of your dreams because if you can't have her at least you can whoop the ass of the guy who did have her.

[Subfallen]

[ QUOTE ]
"But OP has actual feelings for this girl"

lol, u guys are gay. he barely knows her! he just wants to f her, man. maybe they have the same emo bands listed on facebook and exchange playful emoticons over msn a lot and somehow this seems more important than it really is because he wants to [censored] her so badly, but that doesn't mean a damn thing. it's an infatuation.. a protracted and unrequited one, but that isnt important.

"actual feelings" wtf

[/ QUOTE ]

FOLKS, WE HAVE A WINNNNEEERRR! [img]/images/graemlins/heart.gif[/img]

[MitchL]

[ QUOTE ]
Seriously guys.

The best move here is to walk into the room where your mate is banging the chick, and join in. Everybodys drunk. Your mate cannot argue as he just cut your lunch. The girl will probably be up for it, as she is doing her sisters ex, so you know she loves the chop.

Put her on the spit, give your best mate a high 5 or two, and have a top story to tell the boys at the pub .

[/ QUOTE ]

This is gold.

[bkholdem]

[ QUOTE ]
ElD,

Did you ask Ashman or Daryn about my appearance? Daryn hasn't seen me in a few years so I've packed on a little muscle, but I'm no twig. The other things are about right, though making the actual move was pretty much the only thing I didn't do. When she would get in close, she'd then lean back and slide across the couch. Just fillin' in details. Also, he's sexed three girls in his lifetime, and majority of friends are through drugs, but that probably goes for a good amount of people so lame for me to hate on that.

Also, before this she always considered the friend "as a brother" to her.

Triumph,

I've hooked him up with a few of his ex-girlfriends, including one of my fairly good friends. She always laughed about how he had a hard time getting it up, especially when drunk (and yes, at least he's getting some, joke's on me).

KyleB,

Right on.

All,

Guess I'm a pussy, but I had no desire to bang her. I sincerely liked her, that's what made it far harder for me to make a move unfortunately, even if that excuse sucks; if I just thought she was hot I wouldn't care about rejection as much and would just go for it. Making out was my goal, I don't set the bar very high for myself obv. Foolish of me to want a relationship, them the breaks. If that's stuck in HS, then so be it.

Taso,

Do I know you from somewhere?

[/ QUOTE ]

Dude,
He really did you a favor if this is gonna smarten you up some. She wanted to get bent over and you had your tail between your legs. It's imperative to be able to read chicks and give them what they want. Playing the nice guy is super lame and chicks will treat you like their girlfriend crying on your shoulder about their relationship problems and then go suck some strange dude off that they meet after they are finnished using you for their emotional tampon for the night.

You woulda been way better off grabbing her ass and telling her "I want you" earlier in the night. If she says no you know where you stand. Then you couldn't so easily justify being angry at your friend.

I realize I"m being harsh but u need to toughen up when dealing with bitches.

[bkholdem]

[ QUOTE ]
Thanks to anyone posting advice and or funny antecdotes, I appreciate it. It sucked that I didn't do well in making a move (usually it's not a big deal to me but she was so it was 100x harder), and I had asked her out on a date, but she wanted to be among friends first.

The bound by honor thing is absolute BS, my friend had told me many times before NEVER to hit any girls he dated or fooled around with before. I respected that with him and other guys, and it had never been a problem until now. Yeah, she may not be worth it but that surely is not a good way to show it.

[/ QUOTE ]

Tell him he needs to toss your salad to make it up to you hahaha

Seriously though u need an overhaul on how you deal with women.

Go hit on 10 chicks a day until some chick chokes on your flute and you will feel better. Then rince and repeat a few times [img]/images/graemlins/grin.gif[/img]

[bkholdem]

[ QUOTE ]
[ QUOTE ]
[ QUOTE ]
doing a battle rap about how my dick is small in front of a girl I liked,

[/ QUOTE ]

This sounds awesome.

[/ QUOTE ]

In theory yeah, but rather cruel unprovoked and not in an actual rap battle. That's being the center of attention for you, and doing anything for it.

[/ QUOTE ]

That is MAJOR humiliation dude. You should really address that aspect of your personality that leads him to believe that he can do that [censored] to you. Either it is a freak occurance or there is a submissive part of you that kind of invites people to humiliate you (which boning the chick your drooling over right under your nose could also easily be construde as humiliating you as well, or at a minimum having no respect for you although I do agree with what ElD has said, given the small dic rap stuff there may be a pattern here).

YOu need to toughen up. Go here and tell them your story in the field reports section and blindly follow what they tell you to do: www.fastseduction.com

Just don't get caught up in all the overly technical stuff there.