In all seriousness, what are you looking for in a woman?

[Aloysius]

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you don't really know til you find it, I humbly submit.

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I've had 2 very long relationships, and a couple shorter ones. I always used to make "adjustments" based on things I didn't like about my previous gfs, and have found this isn't a great strategy, and am trying to be more open-minded. I think part of maturing is realizing you don't know everything about yourself, and what you want at the end of the day. And sometimes people can really surprise you.

That being said:

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intelligence, a quick wit (so obviously a sense of humor), compassioniate, sincere, compatible with me sexually (ie. we both generally want it the same amount, both have the same level of kinky, etc), willing to try new things, makes an effort to share (or at least understand) my interests, has a passion in her life that isnt me (or at least some outlet that doesnt involve me in anyway), and she cant be fat. (Athletic would be nice, but thats rare in my age group)

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That's about right for me also. Deal-breakers are (in order of priority) if she is not physically attractive to me (reaad "Survival of the Prettiest", nice dissection of why people are attracted to one another), not smart, humorless, co-dependent type.

-Al

[NT!]

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NT!,

Isn't your girlfriend Asian? Are we to infer you were an abandoned child?

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No, I don't know where this idea would have come from.

[The Legend]

They have to be physically attractive to me. Nothing specific, just whatever turns me on.

They have to embrace their feminity, i.e., do what makes them happy and not what impresses others or what not. With many girls I find this to be embracing the roll of the supporter and follower. I like girls who enjoy to be lead, as long as the leader is good for them.

They have to be willing to own up to whenever they do things to manipulate/control/hurt me, and be willing to work to correct it, as I will do the same for them.

But most importantly, I want her to do things because she enjoys doing them, and her to not make me do things that I do not enjoy doing. In other words, I want everything that said girl and I do to be things that we enjoy and make us better people.

I have come to the point where I refuse to accept anything that isn't love. So ,I want a girl who will do only love, or is willing to work on things she does that aren't loving but fear or insecurity based.

So, what this all boils down to, is a girl who is attractive, honest and honest about herself, proactive, and has a sense of humor.

[Hobbs.]

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Tannenbaum - I've never heard a dude say they were looking for a chick with a big vagina.

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was going to say the same thing.

[Green Kool Aid]

I like a girl with a good set of [censored].

[z28dreams]

I was talking with this to someone the other day, and came up with these 4 points:

My 2 specific ones:
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- generosity: this is a really rare trait in people as a whole..
- playfulness: should have good energy (but not annoyingly so), be flirty, and not take life too seriously

The 2 generic ones:
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- ambition/intelligence: should have some kind of drive in life to be something.
- *less* sluttiness: all girls want it. just don't let me get home early and walk into a blind folded gang bang.

[DrewDevil]

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Not just a one night stand, but a long term relationship. So please keep the 'big titted nympho whore w/ double jointed legs and a wide set vagina' comments out.

I'm seriously asking what it is that guys are looking for.

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Good, frequent sex is very, very important to almost every guy, whether it's a one-night stand or a long-term relationship.

Physical attraction is a hard-wired biological imperative for men when choosing a partner, whether for a one-night stand or a long-term relationship.

You say you want to know what guys really want, but then you want us to "leave out" two things that are unquestionably paramount to almost all of us.

Do you want an honest answer, or do you just want more guys trying to tell you what you want to hear?

If you have two women:

A. is a plain looking girl with an average body who is kind of indifferent about sex but has a fantastic sense of humor and is super-intelligent.

B. is a beautiful woman with a great body who loves sex and can't wait to please her man, but has a lousy sense of humor and may not be a rocket scientist.

Just about every man in the universe will choose B. every day of the week and twice on Sunday, whether they would admit it or not.

Sexual attraction and sexual satisfaction drives the bus for men, like it or not.

IMHO.

[Anacardo]

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Card: Does your new girlfriend read oot? Or are you just being more paranoid than normal these days?

lucks,
--GA

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GA,

Paranoia is only one facet of my newfound psychosis. I haven't quite figured them all out yet.

"New GF," that's rich.

Cheers,

T. d A. y C.

[NT!]

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Tannenbaum - I've never heard a dude say they were looking for a chick with a big vagina.

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was going to say the same thing.

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I slept with a girl once who had a HUGE [censored] vagina. You know what? It was great.

[guids]

Two standard deviations from the norm, 1500 SAT-ish,


lol. This sums up everything bad I think about most of OOT.



she has to have as much energy as I do, never get over-emmotional when we are drunk and be able to keep up with my lifestyle, has a genuine smile on her face most of the time, and finds me hilarious, thats all I need, its a bonus if she can cook.