In all seriousness, what are you looking for in a woman?

[Boris]

Tannenbaum - I've never heard a dude say they were looking for a chick with a big vagina.

[FortunaMaximus]

Somebody that listens and is patient.

Awesome appetites. Loves poker. Willin' to share the dream with you, wherever or whenever or whatever form it takes.

Fortunate enough to have found her. Nobody comes into a relationship without baggage, but if you're willing to share the load, it rocks.

Listening to her is always worthwhile. Knowing that it takes two to make the good things happen...

Funny thing though, I didn't know I was lookin' for those things.

'course, she's gotta be a redhead. [img]/images/graemlins/tongue.gif[/img] My downfall, but such sweet downfall.

[RunDownHouse]

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Most guys are looking for some version of their mom that accepts or even valorizes

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I don't know what this word means, and neither does google. Maybe "validates" is better?

OP,

A really good friend. I know its a cliche that at all the 50th anniversary parties, the old geezers stand up and say they're best friends, but after dating my girlfriend for four years or so, and living together for almost three, I think its pretty true.

If you're looking for specifics, I really can't be more specific than that, because what each person looks for in a best friend varies. For me personally, its intelligence combined with bouts of irreverence, and an ability to be patient with me and not talk during sporting events unless well-educated and grounded on the subject matter at hand.

[fiskebent]

A good personality. A positive look on life. Not someone that gets easily offended.

Brains. Empathy. Preferably a leftist political view.

Physically I'm attracted to skinny girls. And I'm not a fan of make-up. At least not the 'bright red lipstick' look.

[nooob]

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Most guys are looking for some version of their mom that accepts or even valorizes

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I don't know what this word means, and neither does google. Maybe "validates" is better?

OP,

A really good friend. I know its a cliche that at all the 50th anniversary parties, the old geezers stand up and say they're best friends, but after dating my girlfriend for four years or so, and living together for almost three, I think its pretty true.

val·or·ize (vl-rz) Pronunciation Key
tr.v. val·or·ized, val·or·iz·ing, val·or·iz·es
To establish and maintain the price of (a commodity) by governmental action.
To give or assign a value to: “The prophets valorized history” (Mircea Eliade).

If you're looking for specifics, I really can't be more specific than that, because what each person looks for in a best friend varies. For me personally, its intelligence combined with bouts of irreverence, and an ability to be patient with me and not talk during sporting events unless well-educated and grounded on the subject matter at hand.

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val·or·ize (vl-rz) Pronunciation Key
tr.v. val·or·ized, val·or·iz·ing, val·or·iz·es
To establish and maintain the price of (a commodity) by governmental action.
To give or assign a value to: “The prophets valorized history” (Mircea Eliade).

[JaBlue]

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my thoughts don't represent a very large portion of the demographic you're looking for but I like quirkiness and curiosity a lot. You know, along with the physical stuff.

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What kind of quirkiness? And curiosity about what? All things, life etc..?

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I think of quirkiness as the idiosyncracies that make you you . Hard to explain, but its just the little things that help me recognize who someone is. Of course, I have to like who that someone is... I know this is vague and not really what you're asking for, but as of right now I'm not looking for anything really specific - just whatever I like, I guess. I absolutely love Amelie's quirkiness. And Lucien's too, although not in a romantic way.

And curiosity can be pretty wide- it could be about books, molecular biology, life, whatever. Mainly its a girl's ability to be interested in something of her own volition and her wanting to ask questions and stuff. If this isn't there, I tend to get bored pretty fast.

[kyro]

My last 5-6 girlfriends have alternated between

1) down to earth, straight-arrow, good girl types

and

2) wild, rebellious, bad girl types

I've had great relationships with both types, and terrible relationships with both types.

As long as she is, deep down inside, a "good" person, I'm not sure it really matters.

[RunDownHouse]

wtf. Go to google, enter "define: valorize" in the search, and copy/paste results.

EDIT: wtf at google, not you.

EDIT edit: Sorry, didn't want to turn this into a nitfest of dictionary definitions. Just ignore that part of my post, I guess.

[NT!]

RDH,

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To give or assign a value to: “The prophets valorized history”

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Google turned this up pretty much right away for me BTW. I suspect it may be one of those academia buzzwords that gets kicked around (apparently appropriated from the economics lexicon) but I think it fits.

What I mean is, basically, a woman who thinks all the silly boy stuff you do is cute or even cool. Even if she has no interest in it, she should at least think it's cute or comforting that you care about it.

NT

[Anacardo]

First hurdle, besides 'are you attractive,' is 'do you get my jokes.' I find this to be one of the most reliable indicators of a person's general intelligence and compatibility of personality. Think I'm funny or it's over.

I am attracted to kindness, exuberance, eccentricity and un-manufactured, un-stylish charisma. Lacking any ambition for status or many types of what is labeled 'achievement' - I am a creature of hobbies - I often find ambition in others interesting. I strongly feel that any relationship in which I am the better-organized, less-flaky party is doomed to failure. I like to be made to feel useful.

I once described my ideally-envisioned relationship thusly - she'd be Margaret Thatcher, only hot and not such a bitch. I'd be her secret cabinet advisor that she ran when she was in trouble, and I'd be doing her on the side.

Oh, and not, secretly, the Devil. That's a big one too.